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When someone cheats who is at fault, would you say?

Lilymoon · F
The cheater
MarineBob · 56-60, M
The cheater
Synyster · 51-55, M
@MarineBob Bingo
Tracos · 51-55, M
the person who took the action and knowingly cheated
CastorTroy · 31-35, M
Two people. The one cheating and the other person going along with his or her deception.
SW-User
@CastorTroy Agree. The other is an enabler
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
@CastorTroy I don’t agree with that. I don’t care about the other person, only my husband that he’s a dog and I’d pray he didn’t give me fleas while I was serving him divorce papers.
Nayla · 51-55, F
The idiot who believed he/she would get away with cheating. Why would it be anyone else's fault?
Graylight · 51-55, F
It depends on the relationship. If it's a causal relationship and rules have been established, then I think the one who cheats has shown no loyalty to a growing relationship.

Other, longer relationships can be vastly complex situations in which two people maintain a dance. Cheating in this case is almost always just the symptom for deeper issues. They take time to dig out, examine, repair or toss that which no longer works for the relationship or individual.

Infidelity doesn't have to be a final chapture.
gfantasy · 56-60, M
It depends... Sometimes the cheater cheats because of neglect, not being listened to, being ignored etc.
SW-User
They are. You can slice it a hundred diff ways, but [i]they[/i] make that choice
Synyster · 51-55, M
@SW-User Dead on.
JupiterDreams · 31-35
The cheater.

You can't make someone cheat...
basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M
The cheater. No one puts a gun to your head and tells you to screw someone.
Magenta · F
The cheater, of course.
But I try not to judge it as we're all tempted, we aren't saints. 😁
It just gets under my skin a bit when someone who has, always claims loyalty and honesty.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
@Magenta and guilt….they say they feel guilty but I don’t think it’s guilt as much as they lose face in front of their family.
SW-User
The cheater
oh the cheater is totally innocent!!!
Prodaki · 31-35, M
When my ex cheated on me I felt like shit, thinking that it might have been my fault.
But after the pain, I've realized that it was HER the guilty one.
And same goes for enyone else, it's never the cheated one who is to blame. It's ALWAYS the one who cheats. And sometimes, also the person with which your partner cheated.
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
The individual who cheats.
Strongtea · 22-25, M
It could be either person. I have cheated because my girlfriend was really boring.
Strongtea · 22-25, M
It’s complicated, but yes she did drive me to it@RafSilGLucca
RafSilGLucca · 26-30, F
@Strongtea It sounds pretty lame to be honest! You found her boring so you went elsewhere and left her dangling!
Strongtea · 22-25, M
Oh, ok. You had to be there. Like I said she showed her true self when she got even with us@RafSilGLucca
Allelse · 36-40, M
The cheater.
AllelujahHaptism · 36-40, M
most of the time, the cheaters of course, but some times its the other person in the relationships aswell to a certain extent
as well as by how cheating is being defined by the individual
The one knowingly act on and or participate.
RafSilGLucca · 26-30, F
@aaaabbbb How do you mean?
@RafSilGLucca The one who initiated it and the participant, if he or she knowingly participated.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
The cheater. How could it be anybody else’s fault?
eyeno · M
ARGH... No Cheating Allowed !!!

ViciDraco · 36-40, M
A likely scenario is that both share some degree of fault, as people below mentioned things like neglect. Though it is possible for the non cheater to be completely without fault. That is not a defense of the cheater though.

It is absolute that the cheater holds fault, and even when fault is shared the cheater holds the larger portion of the blame. Even in scenarios with neglect, where both parties hold fault, the cheater still holds more blame.
Human1000 · M
If a woman cheats, the man didn't serve her needs as a woman. If a man cheats, he's a piece of shit.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
@Human1000 They’re both pieces of shit, regardless of which sex they are.

 
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