Does your significant other know your whole life story or are their parts that you deliberately leave out?

leave the past in the past cant change it. My husband and I dont know everything about thr other we are older now so who cares

Only if something in the past is relevant enough to share it now with your spouse. Otherwise, it is a misconception that you must share every intimate or private matter with him or her that happened prior to meeting. If you battled an addiction, for instance, that is something you should share. You don't have to share an abortion you had when you were very young.

I think it's a personal decision, and one that only you have enough information to decided upon (unless of course, it's something that affects him or the family). What you shouldn't do, is to let it weigh on you. Make a decision and get peace about it...

Leave the past in the past.My wife knows about 85% of what went on in my life.The rest I keep tucked away in my mind and heart.She doesn't have to know some things.BTW I've been married for 34 years. (!)

I do not think you have to tell your partner everything. But I'm sad that you feel so bad about your own past. Can you talk about these things with a friend, or a counsellor / therapist, or random people on line? :)

My wife and I hace never really talked about our pasts, other than childhood stories from her father. It really doesn't matter. We both enjoy the day and look forward to the future together.

I am an open book with someone that is my significant other, but not all at once.

I dont think anyone would fully understand me without some kind of backstory.lol

I think it's okay to leave things out. Talking too much can often be a bad thing. We should all be read our Miranda rights whenever we enter a relationship. There are things I don't want to know about her and wish she hadn't told me. There are things I don't want her knowing unless it became an impediment to moving forward. Just me...

I'm still in high school so that's way different then being married for 17 years, but I haven't told my current girlfriend some of the stuff from my childhood and I don't plan on telling anyone ever who doesn't already know, not even my future wife-if I ever have one

It's really not necessary to reveal every detail of your life to be close to someone. As long as they know the stuff that's important to know about you and is relevant to the relationship, that should be good enough.

Does he know that your on SW?
Would you share you inner most secrets here?

People have pasts. As long as nothing happened that might affect one's future with their current partner (communicable diseases, someone's death---or [i]birth[/i]) I think it's okay to leave it in the past. 🙂

Have you ever cheated or the husband?