Should I meet up with my ex?

My ex messaged me saying she wants to meet up soon. I haven't spoken to her in a year and my feelings for her have genuinely gone. She's since got together with another guy and I've been dating around. I initially said no to meeting up with her but I'm going to be in her city next week, should I message her?

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TimSummers · M

If you are involed with someone else then no. If you are still single there is no harm in having coffee.

iMystery · M

This one time... I watched a movie... where the ex gf called up the guy and asked to meet up... he was hesitant, but decided to go any way...

Turns out she wanted to tell him she was recently diagnosed HIV positive and needed to let her previous sexual partners know so they could have themselves tested...

It was just a movie... nothing you need to be concerned about.

stevenjames93 · 31-35, M

@iMystery so you're telling me if I meet up with her, I'll be diagnosed HIV positive?

iMystery · M

@stevenjames93 🤣 I'm telling you I watched a movie where that happened 😂

Winenot · 51-55, F

Why does she want to meet up? If you think you could catch up without hard feelings and you think it would be pleasant, sure.

stevenjames93 · 31-35, M

@Winenot we used to be good friends before we got together, we realised it wouldn't work and left it at that, slowly drifted away from each other. It would be pleasant but I don't want her to have the satisfaction of "hey look, my ex is still thinking about me"

Winenot · 51-55, F

@stevenjames93 If that is even a thought running thru your mind, pass. Although, she contacted you, right?

stevenjames93 · 31-35, M

Yeah true but she is the type to play games haha. I think I'm going to leave it and not message her.

SarcasmInSydney · F

No no no no no.

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

Doesn’t seem like there is any reason. Seems you both moved on unless she is putting out feelers to see if you’re still interested. If you aren’t I would stay away.

stevenjames93 · 31-35, M

@Keepitsimple Yeah I'm going to leave it, she's the type to play games and I don't want to be dragged into all of that again

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

@stevenjames93 Yeah, best not to touch that! 👍

4meAndyou · F

No, don't bother. She has probably broken up with her guy and is feeling lost. She probably thinks she can rekindle feelings with you, but you broke up for a reason.

Trevo · 26-30, M

But why? Does her boyfriend know? Will he be there?

stevenjames93 · 31-35, M

@Trevo no he lives in a different city. They're both at me school together, which I left a year ago. she just wants to have a friendly coffee but I don't want to be that guy who messages her ex you know

Trevo · 26-30, M

@stevenjames93 If you still see her as a friend and would want to meet her, you can do it, but I think you should only do it if her boyfriend knows about it. And in case she doesn't know yet, let her know that you don't have feelings for her anymore

Mikado · 46-50, F

Nooooo! Go with your first instinct, your gut.

lou502008 · 61-69, M

no...you 2 are "ex's" for a reason

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