How did you get over your breakup? It feels like I am drowning. I came home and they had taken...

robertsnj · 56-60, M

I feel for you and feel your pain. Ihad a breakup that I bet was a lot like yours when I was close to your current age. I can tell you that relationship is a spec in my rear view mirror today. Time fixes so much of it. At the time the internet wasn't it was today but I gave myself a healing plan.

I started to type out my healing plan but i am sure it doesn't matter --but I had one--a healing plan I wrote it out and just moved slow. I didn't date for about 6-12 months and slowly worked through it throwing time into hobbies instead and sorta waded my way back into the dating pool slowly in months 6-12.

If you partner removed their stuff from your home it was probably over long before that event happened. You probably got your confirmation months ago but may be having issues emotionally reconciling it today.

I am sorry for your pain

HeavenBesideYou · 56-60, F

I read somewhere that you don’t really ever get over heartbreak, but instead you get through it a little at a time. Those words really resonated with me. It made me realize that I’m not going to just wake up one morning and be all over it, and that’s ok

GohantheThird · M

Time. Cheesy as it sounds, time is going to help you a lot. Focusing on your own growth also helps a lot, and it will help you realize why you and your ex broke up. For me, it was us growing differently. What it will be for you is something only you can know.
The 60 day no contact rule is also helpful. No blocking, no stalking, no liking posts and no sending birthday texts until you are healed. When you feel like you don't feel the need for their validation, meaning you don't care if they reach out or not, that's when you can start reaching out to them again.

Hang in there!

AuRevoir · 36-40, M

It depends on your connection with the person.

In some ways it never ends, if the person was truly meaningful to you.

In other ways if you come to realize they weren’t all your mind had cracked them up to be. They become dead to you in a way.

And then there’s the in between where even if they meant the world to you, you still find a world of your own along the way.

RockinPop54 · M

You have to learn to be happy with yourself. Living for someone else's approval will only cause you to die (emotionally) at their disapproval.
If you want to chat privately,
I've been where you are, but I made it through. PM me if you want to chat privately. I'll help where I can. No strings, I promise.

IndianFreak

I know it is very tough, challenging thing to get past heratbreaks. At times, it becomes pretty impossible to get over it - however, thats how the life is.. we somehow need to fight it, face it and overcome it.

Pomegranates · M

I don't know what to tell you. Been there and this spot you are in, right now is so difficult and devastating. Relationships are complicated.

fun4us2b · M

It's a process....the beginning is the worst, so staying busy is good, but do give yourself time to reflect, because suppressing doesn't resolve it...and most importantly protect your heart...don't think back with regrets, this wasn't your fault, it was just a thing that happened.

MellyMel22 · F

Let it all out. Then think of only the reasons they were bad for you and every time you feel like being with them, keep reminding yourself of why you shouldn’t. Eventually, it’ll get easier and you may even ask yourself what made you even want them back at first.

I’m sorry that you’re going through this though 🤍

Ducky · 31-35, F

Not by any easy means. It’s especially difficult if you still have feelings for someone but at the same time, but recognize they’re no longer good for you. I’m sorry you’re going through this too.

Ambersky · 51-55, F

You will never forget them, you just need to move on with your life. It takes time or it doesn’t. Be open and keep it light.

Kiesel · 56-60, M

Wish I could give solid advice but I’m still battling heartbreak devastation myself …

496sbc · 36-40, M

so sorry Bulma / ill chat if u wish inhave heart break my self to. but dont wana post it here

MayorOfCrushtown · M

i took a month or so to grieve, then i got back out and started dating again. found someone better. now, when the ex tries to reconnect, all she hears are crickets. LOLOL

Chiefjustice · 46-50, M

I am sorry about your breakup, hold your head high and remember, they didnt deserve you, its their loss!

Ferric67 · M

I’m sorry for your emotional turbulence

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ajent86 · 56-60, M

It gets better. I promise.

JamesBugman ·

Change door locks, remove them from your social circles, from your phone list and forget about them.
Get a bottle of campaign and celebrate.

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

They, them?

CultOfPersonality · 36-40, M

Now is the time to focus on you.

alicewhite

nothing gets you over the last one...like getting under the next 6

Rpfun78 · 61-69, M

Shouted, Criedt, drank all too much, masturbated a lot