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Betrayal of a Friend

Have you ever had a gut feeling about someone but ignored it?

I had a disabled friend that I felt tremendously sorry for. I helped her out every way I could and she took advantage of me big time. She had the money but refused to spend it to get help. I was not the only one she used.

As the pieces of her picture came out, I realized that not only was I used, played, manipulated and taken advantage of but it was much worse than I had imagined.

I ended the friendship 4 years ago. The final straw was that I knew when Trump was shutting down the country due to covid ahead of everybody. (our office manager's fiancee worked at Mar a Lago)

I called her and told her to prepare and she snickered. She hated Trump. She wasn't listening to the message, she turned it into an opportunity to bash Trump. it was the final straw for me.

She is a member of my church and I am really struggling with this. I sure don't have Christian thoughts.
PinkMoon · 26-30, F Best Comment
As a pastor's child I grew up with a front row seat to just how low church people can go. I've seen people use religion to evade all accountability for their actions. I've seen people use the bible to learn how to mimic being a good Christian. It's best to just detach and allow their actions to catch up with them. They always do.
akindheart · 61-69, F
@PinkMoon you are absolutely right on all counts. this lady was taking back fabric to give to the pastors wife. the pastor's wife didn't want it. i think what bothered me was that i had never asked her for a dime yet she had tons of money. she was sittiing on a lot of fabric, sewing machines and yarn knowing that i was doing charity work. she had to let me know she gave it to the pastor's wife. then it hit me how used i had been

IronHamster · 56-60, M
Trump never shut down the economy. Democrat governors did. I think it was all illegal and not necessary.
akindheart · 61-69, F
@IronHamster the order came from Trump to try to control covid. I know that to be true. the Dims used it to wreak havoc.
IronHamster · 56-60, M
@akindheart Citation, please.
akindheart · 61-69, F
@IronHamster heres my citation. Blocked
If a friend turns out to be less than what I wanted or needed ie NOT a friend, then I tell them why we are no longer friends and I move on. I know few true Christians. You must move on forward. Learn from this lesson. That takes time. You were used, manipulated, etc. Being Christian has nothing to do with this. It is about being human and human feelings. Limit contact. Avoid her. And know that everyone has his or her own heart. Yours is a kind one. Just like your name. And sometimes you will get burnt. Doesn't mean that people are not mostly good. Have a peaceful day.
akindheart · 61-69, F
@PoetryNEmotion VERY very true C. i just felt sorry for her. I didn't help her with wanting something in return. but the ugliness showed many times. I didn't get the full picture until last week and it was really eye opening
@akindheart You are too kind, hon. When a person shows you ugliness, leave them alone. You cannot change an ugly person. You can only learn.
There is a religious nut who keeps calling me to find stuff on the computer for him. He refuses to learn how to use a computer because he feels it is the devil. I cut him off and told him if he does not learn computer basics he will be cut off from the world in 5 years. He has no computer, smart phone, credit card, debit card or checking account. I stopped feeling sorry. Why should he learn when he can use someone?
akindheart · 61-69, F
@AtticEscapee this former friend was too cheap to get better internet. she was using dial up because she refused to pay for the better speed. nuts..people are nuts.
@akindheart There is a fine line between being helpful to someone and being manipulated into feeling responsible for someone. Helpful vs responsible.
akindheart · 61-69, F
@AtticEscapee THAT was the distinction. when she started ordering me around telling me I had to do something. that is when i drew the line
WillaKissing · 56-60
When we are used and betrayed the trust bond broken it is hard to not have those feelings. I will not tell you to pray about it, But I will pray that God gives you peace over it.

Just sent out the prayer for you, and now sending this reply.
akindheart · 61-69, F
@WillaKissing aww thank you my friend. when i help someone, i never ask for anything in return. but to think she gave me fabric 5 years ago and then ask for it back to give to someone else hit me the wrong way. it is on her and i will leave it there...
RuyLopez · 56-60, M
People pray on Christian’s because they have kindness in their heart. Your only fault is being a loving and caring human being. God sees both of you. Who do you think he was smiling on?
akindheart · 61-69, F
@RuyLopez i sure hope it is me...i just never knew the depth of the manipulation until she told me what she was doing...when i saw the big picture, i was sick.
RuyLopez · 56-60, M
@akindheart Something very similar happen to me when I first got into "Church" as an adult. I wonder if you see this type at satanic rituals. Just pondering? Probably not I surmise.... 😉
akindheart · 61-69, F
@RuyLopez could very well be. she is considered pious and gives generously. The only saving grace is she did this to others. used them big time.
Barefooter25 · 46-50, M
I know the feeling. I lost a potential girlfriend and would be friend due to her hatred of Trump. In reality, she had lots of problems but having TDS was the straw that broke the camels back.
akindheart · 61-69, F
@Barefooter25 you know that we Reps can have friends of both parties. I noticed that the other side can't. yes that is a blanket statement but its true. my son doesn't speak to me over Trump
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
Don't let politics break up a friendship. We can differ, but still enjoy each other.
akindheart · 61-69, F
@samueltyler2 well that was my point. instead of her saying thank you for thinking of me and let me order my supplies, she made fun of Trump. She completely disregarded my thoughtfulness.
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
@akindheart but you have to separate the two.
akindheart · 61-69, F
@samueltyler2 well i gave her the heads up and never spoke to her again...and won't ever. it was not that incident but many more before that.
Quimliqer · 70-79, M
Sad, how can people even stand to look at themselves in the mirror!
akindheart · 61-69, F
@Quimliqer she took it one step further. she gave me a couple pieces of fabric. She told me she wanted it back last weekend to give to someone else. no lie. she got the fabric back. i will never speak to her again.
Quimliqer · 70-79, M
@akindheart That’s the ultimate scorn!! Your heart is in the right place, she doesn’t have one.
akindheart · 61-69, F
@Quimliqer that was the conclusion i came to
SandWitch · 26-30, F
I agree with your disabled friend.

Trump was and still is a narcissistic sociopath who conned America into awarding him his Presidency.
SandWitch · 26-30, F
@akindheart
You've actually missed the point yourself, akindheart.

WHY would you even feel the need to mention ANYTHING political in your post, when your post WAS NOT ABOUT POLITICS in the first place?

You should have edited that statement you made about Trump before you posted this piece about betrayal.
akindheart · 61-69, F
@SandWitch dont tell me what to do on my story. That was the reason i called her. Enough said
akindheart · 61-69, F
@SandWitch and no posts on your profile

 
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