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TheRealBarbossa · 36-40, T
TheRealBarbossa · 36-40, T
@Ashly sure, if I'm not able to seduce the man I'm currently obsessed with. I'm not sharing him 🤤
Sojournersoul · M
MrsRachelEvans · 31-35, F
Old51 · 70-79, M
You should date an older man. He is mature and responsible
SirLirkALot · 46-50, M
yes if you find him attractive and you don't mind a foot fetish 👀
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Boeing · 36-40
You can learn a great deal from an older man but I am not sure I would tell you to settle with one, for life, marriage.
It is beautiful to grow up with someone and go through similar phases, as admittedly we are all different and yet there are certain things that unfold in our 20s, 30s. ..etc..
Focus on the rest of your life, your work, your hobbies ❤
It is beautiful to grow up with someone and go through similar phases, as admittedly we are all different and yet there are certain things that unfold in our 20s, 30s. ..etc..
Focus on the rest of your life, your work, your hobbies ❤
PatientlyWaiting25 · 46-50, F
Don't settle for anyone just because you think time is running away. If you have to wait until you find "the one" then do that but make sure he's right for you otherwise you will just be lonely and trapped in an unhappy marriage. Maybe try a Christian dating website. You might meet someone right for you there.
Pfuzylogic · M
Feet pics and you will always attract the top drawer! 😛
Lostpoet · M
🙋🏼im an older man
COOCHIEATER8U · 41-45, M
COOCHIEATER8U · 41-45, M
@Ashly What are you looking for
Ashly · 26-30, F
@COOCHIEATER8U A traditional, loving man who’s ready to settle down
Catholic preferred, but Christian is ok
Hard working, funny respectable guy
Catholic preferred, but Christian is ok
Hard working, funny respectable guy
COOCHIEATER8U · 41-45, M
@Ashly I'm traditional as they come, Yes i am a God fearing man..Trust me running a business is truly hard work..
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
So, it isn't as if you have a candidate in mind, then? You just want a long-term, serious relationship, family, all that?
There's nothing wrong with wanting that, and nothing wrong with trying to get it. If the candidates in the pool you've been fishing do not cut it, then yes, you need to expand the parameters of your search, which may very well include an older man. There are a lot of older men who would definitely be interested in a younger, attractive woman, and they ideally have some degree of experience, maturity and stability, which sounds like what you want.
There's nothing wrong with wanting that, and nothing wrong with trying to get it. If the candidates in the pool you've been fishing do not cut it, then yes, you need to expand the parameters of your search, which may very well include an older man. There are a lot of older men who would definitely be interested in a younger, attractive woman, and they ideally have some degree of experience, maturity and stability, which sounds like what you want.
Ashly · 26-30, F
@DunningKruger yes, I want a long term relationship. I’ve always dated with the intention of getting married. Unfortunately I’ve made some questionable choices in my past 🙄
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
@Ashly It's difficult to meet like-minded people. I assume you've tried things like dating apps?
Someone once told me that the best way to meet people to date is to join an organization, such as a church or a volunteer group. Or just volunteering somewhere where you're likely to meet people.
I would suggest that you find things to do that are outside of whatever you've been doing that hasn't worked, whatever that happens to be.
And one thing you might consider is taking a complete and honest inventory of yourself and what you have to offer a partner. What makes you stand out as a potential wife and mother? What can you do to enhance your best qualities in that regard? You can think of it as creating a marketing plan for yourself. That may sound crass, but it's true that you are, in effect, selling a product.
At the same time, you need to take the time to live your life by yourself. Do things for yourself that you enjoy just to enjoy them. Learn to be content on your own. It presents you as someone who wants a husband and a family, but you don't need it to get by. You're enough for yourself. Those are things you want, not things you need.
Just tossing out a few ideas. I hope you find them helpful.
Someone once told me that the best way to meet people to date is to join an organization, such as a church or a volunteer group. Or just volunteering somewhere where you're likely to meet people.
I would suggest that you find things to do that are outside of whatever you've been doing that hasn't worked, whatever that happens to be.
And one thing you might consider is taking a complete and honest inventory of yourself and what you have to offer a partner. What makes you stand out as a potential wife and mother? What can you do to enhance your best qualities in that regard? You can think of it as creating a marketing plan for yourself. That may sound crass, but it's true that you are, in effect, selling a product.
At the same time, you need to take the time to live your life by yourself. Do things for yourself that you enjoy just to enjoy them. Learn to be content on your own. It presents you as someone who wants a husband and a family, but you don't need it to get by. You're enough for yourself. Those are things you want, not things you need.
Just tossing out a few ideas. I hope you find them helpful.
Ashly · 26-30, F
@DunningKruger dating apps are designed for quick hook ups
I know people that have met through them but a majority of them aren’t meant to find genuine love.
I know what I offer to the table and in today’s world it’s not considered the norm. A majority of girls can’t cook, don’t like cleaning, don’t see themselves as “ housewives” or think it’s beneath them. Traditional values have worked for generations. And I intend to keep them alive
I know people that have met through them but a majority of them aren’t meant to find genuine love.
I know what I offer to the table and in today’s world it’s not considered the norm. A majority of girls can’t cook, don’t like cleaning, don’t see themselves as “ housewives” or think it’s beneath them. Traditional values have worked for generations. And I intend to keep them alive
Sapio · 51-55, M
I'm not sure that you have to move. But a man 5 years older than you will probably have the same maturity level as you. So going for an older guy isn't necessarily a bad thing. However, don't rush into things. Trust the process even if it takes longer for you to have the family you desire.
JRVanguard · 26-30, M
JRVanguard · 26-30, M
@Ashly Deal👀
DragonPhallus69 · 36-40, M
You want to try E.D penis and be geriatric nurse, go right ahead. If your 26 you should be dating guys in their early thirties and late twenties.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
I can't say I'm an expert. I've been married once(around your age), divorced once, engaged a total of 3x.
There are no rules. I spent an awful lot of time on dating sites, only to end up with my hairdresser's daughter(14 year difference between us).
There are definitely Christian dating sites if that is a must.
DO NOT leave your career if possible. The job market is awful.
I can't say that moving helps or hurts your chances. I can say that moving to a new place sets everything back to zero, which is why I've never done it.
There are no rules. I spent an awful lot of time on dating sites, only to end up with my hairdresser's daughter(14 year difference between us).
There are definitely Christian dating sites if that is a must.
DO NOT leave your career if possible. The job market is awful.
I can't say that moving helps or hurts your chances. I can say that moving to a new place sets everything back to zero, which is why I've never done it.
Neuman · M
how much older?
@fun4us2b shake it like a polaroid picture !
TexChik · F
@Ashly You are fine...if you rush in you may make a terrible mistake. Being very religious is a great thing, but your generation likes to hook up before the wedding...that might be an impairment for you . I did the same thing until I realized I had Mr. Right and had my night of firsts...he proposed the next day...after going out to ask my parents. ☺
ShenaniganFoodie · 41-45, M
You maybe to much for me to handle
Huckleberry42 · 46-50, M
You've got wisdom beyond your years, and further than many other women older than you already.
Some men wil say to do it for selfish reasons. You already know better.
Just remember many of them are not as nieve as many of these younger guys.
Best of luck whatever you decide.
Some men wil say to do it for selfish reasons. You already know better.
Just remember many of them are not as nieve as many of these younger guys.
Best of luck whatever you decide.
empanadas · 31-35, M
Honestly, if i didnt meet you on sw you would have been my type haha i post here for shit and giggles but i likely given you the impression im crazy af 😂
Go to more church events. Im sure that person is out there. Dating in big cities can be horrible. Sometimes outside in smaller cities you find better quality people
Go to more church events. Im sure that person is out there. Dating in big cities can be horrible. Sometimes outside in smaller cities you find better quality people
empanadas · 31-35, M
@Ashlyyeah had someone find out where i lived on here. 💀
Im sure your person is out there. Cali is not the place honestly. I had to move to two other states to find the right people worth dating. Wish you well like always
That is true, but it’s something I’ve been thinking for a while now, like everyone is with someone except for me.
Im sure your person is out there. Cali is not the place honestly. I had to move to two other states to find the right people worth dating. Wish you well like always
TheWanderingMind · 41-45, M
I think you might just be dating the wrong age group. A guy a little older is more likely to know what he wants, be settled, and actually be ready for marriage and kids instead of still trying to figure his life out. And fucking around. I don't know anything about you but you seem chill and open minded so I don’t think you’re necessarily too picky, , you probably just need to be more selective about the type of guys you’re giving your time to and not giving your time to get to know people. And no, I don’t think you need to move out of Cali lol. Although I get what your saying about cali. Maybe just expand your age range a little and see what happens. Maybe outside your race,don't know if that's an option or you already do that I know hispanics tend to stick with their culture. You know what you want and there’s nothing wrong with that.
DragonPhallus69 · 36-40, M
@Ashly god doesnt approve of age gap relationships. It is antinature. Even Job made a covenant with his eyes to look at younger women, because it will stain his rightousness.