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Should I date an older man?

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Date an older man
Keep dating men my age
Try dating younger men?
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I’m so tired of dealing with men my age, like so over it… 😒 I’m sick of dating, I need a man that knows what he wants. I want a family, and preferably soon. I have a pretty good career but I would leave it in order to raise a baby.

My older brother and younger sister are already married and with kids and I feel like I’m being left behind. I can sense that my parents worry about me finding someone and it’s so awkward and embarrassing 😔

I often wonder if I’m the problem, am I too picky? Do I choose the wrong type of guys?

I’m in pretty good shape, I’m not a super model but I’m not fugly either 😕 solid 6/10 I’m very religious. The church gives me a sense of belonging and guidance in today’s messed up world. Do I need to move out of California to find my soulmate? Idk what I’m doing wrong.

Any advice? Be brutally honest as possible, I need some real honesty.
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You date who is right for you. You have so much to offer and any man would be lucky to have you.
Julien · 36-40, M
Around 40 is perfect 👌 😂
Ashly · 26-30, F
@Julien any particular reasons why? lol
Julien · 36-40, M
@Ashly l you aren’t going to believe this but I just turned 40 😂
Ashly · 26-30, F
@Julien congrats 🎉 😊
Happy belated birthday 🎁
Boeing · 36-40
You can learn a great deal from an older man but I am not sure I would tell you to settle with one, for life, marriage.
It is beautiful to grow up with someone and go through similar phases, as admittedly we are all different and yet there are certain things that unfold in our 20s, 30s. ..etc..

Focus on the rest of your life, your work, your hobbies ❤
Ashly · 26-30, F
@Boeing 🫂
TheRealBarbossa · 36-40, T
Leave the older men for me, please. They're all I have 🙈
Ashly · 26-30, F
@TheRealBarbossa threesome? lol 🤭😅
TheRealBarbossa · 36-40, T
@Ashly sure, if I'm not able to seduce the man I'm currently obsessed with. I'm not sharing him 🤤
PatientlyWaiting25 · 46-50, F
Don't settle for anyone just because you think time is running away. If you have to wait until you find "the one" then do that but make sure he's right for you otherwise you will just be lonely and trapped in an unhappy marriage. Maybe try a Christian dating website. You might meet someone right for you there.
Sapio · 51-55, M
I'm not sure that you have to move. But a man 5 years older than you will probably have the same maturity level as you. So going for an older guy isn't necessarily a bad thing. However, don't rush into things. Trust the process even if it takes longer for you to have the family you desire.
Ashly · 26-30, F
@Sapio thank you for your honesty. Yes most men my age aren’t fully ready to settle down and it’s exhausting 😒 I’ve had my fun, I’m ready to settle down. I’ll be cautious tho, especially in today’s society
Sapio · 51-55, M
@Ashly trust your gut. You'll know when it's right.
Ashly · 26-30, F
@Sapio 🫂
exexec · 70-79, C
My bro-in-law married a lady 20 years younger, and they had a good marriage. My wife enjoyed being with an older man, but not as a serious dating partner. It depends on the match.
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
So, it isn't as if you have a candidate in mind, then? You just want a long-term, serious relationship, family, all that?

There's nothing wrong with wanting that, and nothing wrong with trying to get it. If the candidates in the pool you've been fishing do not cut it, then yes, you need to expand the parameters of your search, which may very well include an older man. There are a lot of older men who would definitely be interested in a younger, attractive woman, and they ideally have some degree of experience, maturity and stability, which sounds like what you want.
Degbeme · 70-79, M
You date what you`re comfortable with. Your happiness is what`s important. Oh and for a 6/10.... I don`t think so. Girl you`re a good 9.9999. You can say I`m bias, but I know what I know.
Ashly · 26-30, F
@Degbeme that’s pretty important in a relationship 😂
Degbeme · 70-79, M
@Ashly *checks*.... yup still breathing.
Ashly · 26-30, F
@Degbeme … wow lol
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
I can't say I'm an expert. I've been married once(around your age), divorced once, engaged a total of 3x.
There are no rules. I spent an awful lot of time on dating sites, only to end up with my hairdresser's daughter(14 year difference between us).

There are definitely Christian dating sites if that is a must.

DO NOT leave your career if possible. The job market is awful.

I can't say that moving helps or hurts your chances. I can say that moving to a new place sets everything back to zero, which is why I've never done it.
Ashly · 26-30, F
@uncalled4 thank you for your advice papi. I can tell you’ve been through a lot. 🫂 I’ll need to really think about what I need to do 😕
Neuman · M
how much older?
Ashly · 26-30, F
@Neuman idk, maybe older than 30? 35?
Neuman · M
@Ashly i think thats well within whatd be a normal range for you. i guess it depends on what you're looking for and what you're ready to let go of
Older men can also be immature in many ways too
TexChik · F
The harder you look the more difficult it is to find. Older , younger, you need a GAM (grown ass man) and not a wimp. Stop "looking" and just go out with your friends. You are not on a timer.
Ashly · 26-30, F
@TexChik I need a man asap 😭
I’m tired of dating, it’s embarrassing

Technically I am on a biological timer 😕😅
TexChik · F
@Ashly You are fine...if you rush in you may make a terrible mistake. Being very religious is a great thing, but your generation likes to hook up before the wedding...that might be an impairment for you . I did the same thing until I realized I had Mr. Right and had my night of firsts...he proposed the next day...after going out to ask my parents. ☺
PinkMoon · 26-30, F
I don't have any advice. I wish you luck and please keep us posted.
Ashly · 26-30, F
@PinkMoon thank you 🫂
empanadas · 31-35, M
Honestly, if i didnt meet you on sw you would have been my type haha i post here for shit and giggles but i likely given you the impression im crazy af 😂

Go to more church events. Im sure that person is out there. Dating in big cities can be horrible. Sometimes outside in smaller cities you find better quality people
Ashly · 26-30, F
@empanadas fwb? 😂
Same papi, you’re a chill guy
And we both post brain rot stuff 💀

I have but a majority of the guys are either already married or super young 😒
empanadas · 31-35, M
@Ashly naw i dont do fwb. It gets too messy. Im at a point in my life i onlt date seriously.

Damn california suck. Lowkey everyone marries their childhood friend out there.
Ashly · 26-30, F
@empanadas I was joking lol
It’s a messed up state 😒

Not in big cities 😭 or at least not that I know
DeadOrbit · 36-40
If you want brutal honesty then ill tell you this post alone doesn't say even a minor detail about what the issue is.
Ashly · 26-30, F
@DeadOrbit I have been doing a lot of self reflecting, and its been agonizing but truth hurts 😔
DeadOrbit · 36-40
@Ashly and? If you think you are the problem what is it that makes you think that?
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