Tell him, be honest.

I know nothing about your culture or location.

I do know controlling behavior when I see it.

You’re in an un-winnable game, a game that is structured so that once you start to play, you lose.

Your partner demanded honesty, you were honest, and he’s “back to square one.” You are upset, even though you did nothing wrong. That is unjust.

When someone you care for makes you feel like you have to constantly walk on egg shells, it’s not the right kind of affection.

Any prior relationship disappointments with other people your partner had are not your fault, and not your responsibility.

It’s not even a situation where you were considering a reunion with your ex. You were minding your own business when he contacted you concerning a “work tool.” Now your current partner is tugging on your strings like you’re a puppet.

I was married to a man like that for almost 20 years. If you don’t want to spend your life feeling every moment of every day like you’ve been called into the principal’s office when you have no idea what you did wrong, don’t continue with the relationship.

It will not get better. It will get worse.

Honesty is the best policy. And plus you respected his wishes and concerns about your ex by refusing to respond. As long as he knows you're not engaging with the ex, therefore making him uncomfortable, I'm sure he'll be fine.

At least I hope so. I know, if I were in his shoes I'd appreciate the honesty and respect.

Well I'd tell him if I was you .
See your a woman right and especially being woman they'd be a lot of interactions with male people trying to crack onto you or flirt with you even in a relationship.
That will happen that's life .
I see it myself from past relationships but if you don't tell him why you won't tell what you could be doing is without you known it is that you could be holding onto another temptation if anything goes wrong , so if was you I'd tell him cause if the temptation could happen and not tell your boyfriend now and he finds out along the way and excuse the language that's a mind fuck so yes I'd tell him . It breaks all temptations and your boyfriend will know where he stands .
He'd appreciate that more . Trust me from a male point of view

You agreed to honesty, and also a matter of trust.

The question is - what if your bf later finds out your ex texted you, and you didn't mention (i.e. "hid it")?

If the relationship is serious, then your bf should appreciate your transparency of telling him, and that you that your ex reached out totally unsolicited and you've maintained clear boundaries by not responding.

If he decides to end your relationship over that, perhaps you've dodged a bullet.an better to find out now than end up in a divorce later.

Your bf should respect your honesty and transparency. What do you think?.

Is there a reason other than self-esteem, that trust is hard for him in a new relationship? If not, then it's time for a lesson in circumventing life and just learn to deal with it.

Honestly being honest is the right way to go about it, cause you start playing emotional dodgeball to protect yourself and his feelings, by going around them instead of through.
That will create jealousy/resentment and that's not good and difficult to come back from.

I believe you have done nothing that requires you to tell your boyfriend - and I think your fears in that regard are legitimate (boyfriend holding it against you even though you’ve done nothing). On the other hand, if this ex persists his attempts, you may want to tell your boyfriend for your own safety’s sake. Ex sounds like he is determined to get to you.

Probably not. I know my wife used to hear from her former lovers, and I even talked to a couple of them when they called. I don't know if they still text her, and I don't need to know.

I wouldn’t tell him. Honestly interaction is a two way street and as long as your not responding no harm done. If your bf is very cautious and inexperienced with love and relationships sadly I don’t imagine him taking this too well

Honesty always, if he ends the relationship because of something you can’t control then, wow. He sounds a little insecure and controlling.
Do you work with your ex?
Why not block your ex?

You should let him know. Tell him you didn't engage.

If this is enough for the guy to break up with you, it's better to happen now than it is to happen when some insecurity arises after one of you has moved to the other's country. If he can't handle someone contacting you and you not responding then he's just not stable enough to plan a relationship with.

Your ex's actions are certainly suspect, but unless you absolutely need to I wouldn't say anything about it. It was a pointless conversation anyway, and your ex can literally get that from anyone. You are not obligated to tell your partner about your ex, and your ex is not entitled to a conversation. Maintain your boundaries dude.

Why haven’t you blocked his number? You would have never known he tried to contact you?? That’s what your current boyfriend will be wondering why you hadn’t already blocked his number if you tell him. I think you should immediately block his number and never tell your current and never think of your ex again!!! If you’re that serious about him.

Jesus Christ. You’re in a long distance relationship and that’s the first problem. He’s not there and other guys will be popping in and out of your life, you will likely find someone else worthy of your attention.

Your ex only sent you a text. Last but not least you both will never be able to stop each other talking to other people in life and will have to trust each other. Deal with insecurity and don’t ever feel jealous until one of you has a good reason.

Yes, tell him. If he decides to end the relationship because he can’t deal with it, that’s his problem. You can’t control how he reacts to something. And it may be a blessing in disguise.

I would be honest because i would want him to be honest with me if the shoe was on the other foot.

I dont agree with telling him and at this point you owe either one anything.b

You simply cannot control another's reaction.

However, that reaction can be a predictor of future reactions. Sounds like someone is EXTREMELY insecure.....

Just sayin......

Sounds a little like my story: https://similarworlds.com/relationships/dating/3053956-Would-you-want-to-know-if-after-25-years-your but yours sounds a little different since there's no apparent danger. I think it might be safe to just let it be.

Why would you bring it up?

However the fact that you're asking, indicates you've resolved to engaged in a long term relationship and marriage, to a guy you do not know, and an existence where you will you be constantly need to justify every decision you make.

Your boyfriend is so immature you should treat him as imaginary. If he’s going to act that way when you’re being truthful, the relationship is not worth it.

Things only get worse. Forget both men.

Sorry 😞

Dating an insecure man never goes well. This won’t either. It’s best to nip things before you get hurt.

Why do you want to do that to him, telling him, knowing that it’s going to hurt him and knowing that you’re not engaging with your ex. just drop it

Tell him and explain.

Block the ex. Not necessary to tell the new guy. It will just cause upset and you don't have any intention of talking to ex anyway.

Tell him and block your ex's number

Just keep ignoring the ex if it helps block his number

I see no reason to tell him, nothing happened.

Depends what did the X text you and what did you reply

Be honest if he asks

No. Leave it.

Why are you in a Christian relationship. That's lies to begin with to start with! to begin with