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My boyfriend said what a babe! About a celebrity to but never said it about me

Hi everyone should I be worried that my boyfriend isn’t really sexual with wording.
but he apparently is attracted to a celebrity woman on question of sport and told me saying what a babe.

I originally didn’t hear him but then he told me again.
I was shocked because him say that and never said that about me or anyone so was like was there wording I never hear in spoken love.
He has told me he loves me in the past stuff like that. I told him would be nice if he could use them words on me. Which now he thinks am over thinking it.
)bear in mind we are 8 years in the relationship. ) And he trying to be more open sexually he struggles wirh saging things like am sexy , with his Austism. as I complained about him being closed off. Now saying he won’t do it again because I can’t handle it. But that not that I meant. He is saying his misses his freedom to say what he wants without worry of hurting me. He said he is sorry as well but i think he missing the point it.
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PDXNative1986 · 36-40, MVIP
Well, for what it's worth, celebrities, while they are human too, and you know, do all the things that humans do, the truth of the matter is for their own safety among other things live lives fairly cloistered off from the rest of us with us having limited at best access to them. I've nurtured a pretty massive crush on Jena Malone for years that runs a bit deeper than "oh she's cute." to this chick is a Serious Comrade who votes for the same politicians has a similiar point of view to myself and has all the independence that I need to muster at this point and foster within myself emancipated minor who broke away because her mom micro managing her finances kinda felt like she was stealing from her. I know this chicks biography.

And yet, Any girlfriend of mine who thought she was some kind of threat I'd just be like oh please. I don't even know her, I wish I did but I bet people in hell want ice water too.
Jadetherabbit · 31-35, F
@PDXNative1986 he tells me he loves me but when it comes to telling me me the physical appearance it’s like he struggles with saying I look beautiful stuff like that most I get if am lucky Is you look good. Once in a blue moon if am lucky. But yes I am working on myself more to not be so reliant on outside positivity
PDXNative1986 · 36-40, MVIP
@Jadetherabbit I struggle with that sort of thing myself for the simple reason that time and experience that taught me to avoid giving appearance based compliments altogether simply to distinguish myself from my competition, if I'm going to compliment a woman it's going to be about something she does or her intelligence or the like, I don't want to be just a cute guy to my own either, you know? so i would think my lady wanted to be more than just a pretty lady to me.
Jadetherabbit · 31-35, F
@PDXNative1986 now he is ok with that as in what I do he does praise if he does crap on like your a star and I love that
This isn’t really about that one phrase — it’s about emotional reassurance. You want to feel desired and verbally seen. He wants freedom to speak without feeling censored. Both are valid needs. The conflict arises because his attempt at openness (“what a babe”) was the wrong context — it showed his ability to use sexual language, but not with you.
LookingIn · M
Right … so he’s autistic … been loyal and loving for 8 years .. struggles with empathy and expressing emotion … tried to engage with your wishes … got it “wrong” … and you shamed him on it 🤦‍♂

He is wired differently.

He was making an effort.

Probably won’t now as he’s seen your reaction when he tries but fails.

Good job 👍
donut · 31-35, M
Girl, if he’s calling a celebrity a babe, you just tell him—‘That’s cute, but have you seen your girlfriend lately? The real babe’s sitting right here and doesn’t need a red carpet to prove it.’ 😏✨

Honestly, if he struggles with saying sexy things, maybe he just needs a little… coaching session. You know, positive reinforcement: every time he calls you a babe, he earns one kiss. Ten ‘babes’ and it’s an upgrade to a full make-out session. 🔥😂

And if he ever says he misses his ‘freedom’ to speak his mind, remind him—he’s free to say whatever he wants… but you’re free to look this good while he does it. 😉💅
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
@donut ew *shivers* 😂
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
He's not with you because you're a babe (even though you may very well be a babe; I don't know). He's with you because he loves you. And because he loves you, he's uncomfortable sexualizing you; it's a common issue in our puritanical society.
I'd have a problem with it. I think it's disrespectful. I would never comment about another man when with my significant other.

It's just common sense.
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
Sexual with wording 🤣🤣🤣 women...

He is right, if he can't feel like he can joke around and speak his mind with you then that's a way bigger problem than him not calling you exactly what he calls other people. You want to have fun together and love the time spent, you do not want to play games where you get angry at each other if you dont behave exactly predictably.
Jadetherabbit · 31-35, F
@MartinTheFirst I respect who he likes just he never really expressed it in 8 years we been together. Yes it probably nothing but I would like affectionate words from time to time. Like am beautiful or hot I haven’t heard him say that about me in years
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
@Jadetherabbit then say that separately, it's a different issue than him calling someone else hot.
Jadetherabbit · 31-35, F
@MartinTheFirst that all I meant lol 😆 I have told him
AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F
Maybe its easier for him to say it about someone he knows that he will never meet than it is to say it to you in person..If that makes sense.
dale74 · M
Your over thinking it he loves you and your more than just some babe so much more
edtur61 · 61-69, M
MarkPaul · 26-30, M
It sounds like you need a little pet name he can call you... you know like his little cotton swab. Or, let's see... maybe Lollipop. How about if he called you that?
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
@MarkPaul 🤣🤣🤣
Jadetherabbit · 31-35, F
@MarkPaul that sounds awful lol 😆
Jadetherabbit · 31-35, F
@MarkPaul he calls me babe chick and duck so like being called babe
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