My boyfriend said what a babe! About a celebrity to but never said it about me

Hi everyone should I be worried that my boyfriend isn’t really sexual with wording.
but he apparently is attracted to a celebrity woman on question of sport and told me saying what a babe.

I originally didn’t hear him but then he told me again.
I was shocked because him say that and never said that about me or anyone so was like was there wording I never hear in spoken love.
He has told me he loves me in the past stuff like that. I told him would be nice if he could use them words on me. Which now he thinks am over thinking it.
)bear in mind we are 8 years in the relationship. ) And he trying to be more open sexually he struggles wirh saging things like am sexy , with his Austism. as I complained about him being closed off. Now saying he won’t do it again because I can’t handle it. But that not that I meant. He is saying his misses his freedom to say what he wants without worry of hurting me. He said he is sorry as well but i think he missing the point it.

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PDXNative1986 · 36-40, MVIP

Well, for what it's worth, celebrities, while they are human too, and you know, do all the things that humans do, the truth of the matter is for their own safety among other things live lives fairly cloistered off from the rest of us with us having limited at best access to them. I've nurtured a pretty massive crush on Jena Malone for years that runs a bit deeper than "oh she's cute." to this chick is a Serious Comrade who votes for the same politicians has a similiar point of view to myself and has all the independence that I need to muster at this point and foster within myself emancipated minor who broke away because her mom micro managing her finances kinda felt like she was stealing from her. I know this chicks biography.

And yet, Any girlfriend of mine who thought she was some kind of threat I'd just be like oh please. I don't even know her, I wish I did but I bet people in hell want ice water too.

Jadetherabbit · 31-35, F

@PDXNative1986 it’s not the celebrity more of what words he used as he never said that to me in context

Jadetherabbit · 31-35, F

@Jadetherabbit i actually @PDXNative1986 i actually day i like Tom from marvel films Loki he not fussed by it

PDXNative1986 · 36-40, MVIP

@Jadetherabbit What you're describing, it's very obviously jealousy, have you tried telling him that when he talks about them this way you feel jealous, I mean it seems relevant to everything. Sometimes we also unfortunately need to be reminded that Words of Affection need to be stated repeatedly. I know after 10 years with Alyssa it might have felt a bit redundant to remind her I loved her but, we do need to hear it every now and then again. I guess I'm just saying on account of the autism, have you tried actually telling him how you feel in depth? We can be really bad since we're often not super great at figuring people out.

Jadetherabbit · 31-35, F

@PDXNative1986 he tells me he loves me but when it comes to telling me me the physical appearance it’s like he struggles with saying I look beautiful stuff like that most I get if am lucky Is you look good. Once in a blue moon if am lucky. But yes I am working on myself more to not be so reliant on outside positivity

PDXNative1986 · 36-40, MVIP

@Jadetherabbit I struggle with that sort of thing myself for the simple reason that time and experience that taught me to avoid giving appearance based compliments altogether simply to distinguish myself from my competition, if I'm going to compliment a woman it's going to be about something she does or her intelligence or the like, I don't want to be just a cute guy to my own either, you know? so i would think my lady wanted to be more than just a pretty lady to me.

Jadetherabbit · 31-35, F

@PDXNative1986 now he is ok with that as in what I do he does praise if he does crap on like your a star and I love that