Are women still old fashioned, should men initiate the intimacy and sex or do you feel this...

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

I was the instigator most times. I had to deal with his rejection or acceptance.
It wasn't fun to be on the other side. I'm used to balance. It was a new experience and in all honesty after a while his inability to instigate made me question the true nature of his feelings towards me.
Was the rest now just out of a perceived duty of care?

I think it's important for couples to be open about the ways in which they feel. Because this situation left me feeling more rejected than empowered

goliathtree · 56-60, M

Always initiating gets old and makes it seem like the partner who doesn't initiate is only performing a duty...which is not a turn on at all. There has to be mutual interest...and mutual participation.

That doesn't mean that both partners will always be in the mood at the same time, but having someone want you should trigger the mood.

There is not much point in initiating something that is going to be rebuffed or only given begrudginly or because they feel they have to.

Nate931 · 31-35, M

It seems a bit old fashioned for the man to initiate it solely. That hasn't been my personal experience either. My wife has no problem initiating it and often does.

Magenta · F

I'm still old fashioned in some ways, but in a relationship, indeed I initiate if I desire. Either or both seems natural to moi.

MommySon · 41-45, F

People need to be honest about what they want, and need. Personally, I'm very aggressive for a woman and I like my men that way, too.

Gingerbreadspice · F

From what I can remember he’ll give me the look. I’ll avert eye contact if I’m not in the mood and if we’re both sitting on the sofa he will kiss me or I him or I’ll tell him to come closer to me.

Bexsy

I always initiated it

exexec · 70-79, C

Over our long relationship, both of us take the initiative as the situation requires. She is more creative than I am when it comes to inviting me to have sex with her.