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Open Letter to the Ladies at SW

I have written an open letter (below) to all the women here at sw who have met men who took advantage of them. I met someone here at sw several months ago and I was foolish enough to fall for him. He took advantage of me in that he reeled me in and when I gave him what he wanted, he started ignoring me. I see he is regularly commenting on other female members photos about them being beautiful and sexy. I'm not jealous. I don't care about him anymore. But I know he will do the same to other ladies here. He is married btw which is even more pathetic on his end. I was stupid and fell for him and his game. No need to chastise me for being a fool. I've already done it to myself enough.


Dear Women,

I write this letter to warn you about a man here at sw who may enter your life under the guise of kindness and charm. He will present himself as a warm, caring individual, offering compliments and making you feel like the center of his world.

As your connection deepens, he might claim to be really emotionally attached to you, portraying you as his ideal partner, and persuade you to share private photos of yourself.

Ladies, beware for his intentions are not sincere.

Once he has gained your trust and acquired what he desires, he will abruptly discard you and move on to his next target.

Trust your instincts and remain vigilant. Do not fall for his deceptive charm or false promises. Remember that true love and respect do not require you to compromise your values or share personal content before you are ready. Stand firm in your self worth.

TigerLili
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TexChik · F
Social media is not the place for finding love. I have only seen it work once , and those two are my best friends here . Usually it ends like with what happened to you . One person is a predator , gets what he /she wants, and moves on. The worst case is like what happened to end EP. The predator lured out the girl and killed her with her friends begging her not to go.

We need all the subtle sensory cues by seeing people repeatedly in our daily lives to properly evaluate them for who they are and if they are someone who is safe and worthy of your time and trust. Photoshopped pics and them telling you what you want to hear online or over the phone isn't safe and it usually doesn't end well.

There is nothing wrong with wanting love . It should and still does require effort and elbow grease, by both parties, to make it work .

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This is sad for me to read, especially since my SW ex-Mistress might well be thinking about me in the same way. 😢 Of course I would tell the story differently, and maybe this man you fell for would as well -- but the hurt is real. I hope you find healing and real love.
Northwest · M
Your warning should be heeded. While naming the guy might be therapeutic, he will simply get another fake SW identity. Your post accomplished its mission.

However, I think his wife deserves to know what she's dealing with.
AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F
Listen here sis! Thank you for this! It's sad and I'm not by any means saying everyone is like this but SOME people are just selfish and have no soul. They are miserable and their sole purpose is to use anyone who will let them. If you are a person with a good, true, pure heart you give people a chance, you give them the benefit of the doubt and you go out on a limb and you trust them anyway and sometimes you find out the hard way that they aren't worth the air that they breathe.
Magenta · 61-69, F
I gave him what he wanted, he started ignoring me. I see he is regularly commenting on other female members photos about them being beautiful and sexy. I'm not jealous. I don't care about him anymore.

Oh I'm aware of the behavior and known about it quite a while ago and I'm sure it's not just one man ether. I'm far from easy prey though. They don't get whatever they desire from me just because they have a flattering charming tongue.
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laurieluvsit · 26-30, F
You are NOT stupid, nor are you a fool.

To find love you must have Trust, now you know one more man that you cannot trust.

There are many out there who you can and will treat you like the Queen you are!

Don't give up Ms Lili.

Chalk it off to one more learning experience, knowing you are better equipped for the next one.
I hope everyone heeds your words and approaches them with caution. Just a lesson in diligence to keep away from any danger that may lurk around the corner
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I am sorry you were hurt
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Acheron · 41-45, M
So a married man lost interest in you. Sorry.
Acheron · 41-45, M
@ThePatientAnarchist Just being real and not indulging the victim complex. Sure sounds like she was a willing participant until he became the “monster” that opted out.
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@Acheron she also sounds like someone wanting others to learn from her mistakes
Unfortunately that's the only reason why a lot of the guys are here. They have literally nothing else going on in their lives. They think that feeling horny is the purpose for living. They're deeply sad individuals.
@ostfuidctyvm Agreed.
Magenta · 61-69, F
@ostfuidctyvm Spot on.
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lissah · 36-40, F
Did he tell you from the beginning that he was married?
ShenaniganFoodie · 36-40, M
Name & Shame, it's the only way to protect
i read this and dont understand how this happens...but im too boring for any one to carry on a convo with me i suppose hahaha. i am interested though what kind of lines guys like this use to get such content from yall...then again maybe i shouldnt wonder i suppose ignorance is bliss and keeps me in check to be ignorant lmfao charming is deff not a skill of mine 💀😅
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Lilymoon · F
You should out this guy
Is he upfront about being married?

 
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