Well rejection is fine. You can't force anyone to like you, I think that's what some guys need to understand.
Personally I really appreciated the politeness of a certain woman who rejected my advances recently, someone I still talk to but have totally knocked the flirting on the head.
@Pikachu we shouldn't judge harshly anyone I'm saying. But it's a good idea to foster better education on sensual affairs.. schools do very little. But I do trust in teachers..
There are plenty of people who we should judge harshly. I'm sure if you take a casual look back through history you could come up with some examples.
In this context you're right: no one has it easy but not everyone makes the choice to react violently or toxically. Having it hard is not an excuse for bad behaviour.
@Pikachu you are right, I didn't understand it was going that far. We were talking about rejection, not rape. But there's aaaalll this gray scale in between. It's best for women to be precise about what they want, but sometimes, we don't see it coming. We were being joyous, inclusive and natural and this many times is misinterpreted. Men need to be taught to listen to our words.
Because for a long time there was a prevalent opinion that "when a woman says no means yes" . We as women should also make an effort to live by our words and be clear.
@Adogslife It's very much tied up in masculinity and patriarchy. A man who can't get a woman is a lesser man and so a man rejected by a woman feels his masculinity is under attack. He likely won't frame it in that way. He'll just feel outraged and angry toward to woman because his ego demands that the object of his attraction submit to him.
@Pikachu I think of that as the simple minded machismo type, which I suppose could be thought of as masculinity. I’m just shocked that you’re inferring it’s a majority of men.
I’ve really only seen it once with an attractive woman I was dating. She’d get hit on non stop. Some rather brazenly imho. She took it in stride, but it seemed like a real pain in the ass as an onlooker.
No one argued the need for a put down. I'm arguing the need to teach men to accept rejection peacefully whether or not their wittle feewings are hurt in the process.
Are you trying to say your rejecting me ? Id have to hit on you before that would ever happen Just keep trying to insult me which shows your ignorance and immaturity and lack of education People who have nothing productive to add usually stoop to attempting to insult
Sure. And we're all taught to be polite but that doesn't mean a man is owed a polite rejection in order for him not to react aggressively. We're already teaching women to be polite. Let's start teaching men to accept rejection peacefully.
Why is that to hard to teach a woman? You can't be nice ? But yet women want to be noticed and and have a dreamboat ask her Out bit don't dare the wrong guy approach her.lol you make me laugh.bt the way I see both sides take it badly.so no it wouldn't hurt to be. Ice about how we reject others.
@Pikachu well don't know where your from but I've never seen violence because a woman turned a man down ,get up tight sure be a bit pissed off sure but that's it
I had not thought of that, but it is exactly what my wife did in college when she dated others. She told them up front that she was committed to me and was dating them for fun. When she was ready to dump them, she had already laid the groundwork. "It's not you, but I told you I love Gary." It worked, and all of her exes remained as her friends.
