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Matt85 · 36-40, M
Well rejection is fine. You can't force anyone to like you, I think that's what some guys need to understand.
Personally I really appreciated the politeness of a certain woman who rejected my advances recently, someone I still talk to but have totally knocked the flirting on the head.
Personally I really appreciated the politeness of a certain woman who rejected my advances recently, someone I still talk to but have totally knocked the flirting on the head.
SlaveEt · 36-40, F
Why don't we teach both courtesy and how to deal with rejection?🤔
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being · 36-40, F
Don't judge them harshly, none has it easy...
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There are plenty of people who we should judge harshly. I'm sure if you take a casual look back through history you could come up with some examples.
In this context you're right: no one has it easy but not everyone makes the choice to react violently or toxically.
Having it hard is not an excuse for bad behaviour.
we shouldn't judge harshly anyone I'm saying.
There are plenty of people who we should judge harshly. I'm sure if you take a casual look back through history you could come up with some examples.
In this context you're right: no one has it easy but not everyone makes the choice to react violently or toxically.
Having it hard is not an excuse for bad behaviour.
being · 36-40, F
@Pikachu you are right, I didn't understand it was going that far. We were talking about rejection, not rape.
But there's aaaalll this gray scale in between.
It's best for women to be precise about what they want, but sometimes, we don't see it coming.
We were being joyous, inclusive and natural and this many times is misinterpreted.
Men need to be taught to listen to our words.
Because for a long time there was a prevalent opinion that "when a woman says no means yes" .
We as women should also make an effort to live by our words and be clear.
But there's aaaalll this gray scale in between.
It's best for women to be precise about what they want, but sometimes, we don't see it coming.
We were being joyous, inclusive and natural and this many times is misinterpreted.
Men need to be taught to listen to our words.
Because for a long time there was a prevalent opinion that "when a woman says no means yes" .
We as women should also make an effort to live by our words and be clear.
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Adogslife · 61-69, M
It’s not really rejection. Different people have different wants for compatibility. It’s never bothered me, nor do I think it bothers most men.
@Adogslife It's very much tied up in masculinity and patriarchy.
A man who can't get a woman is a lesser man and so a man rejected by a woman feels his masculinity is under attack.
He likely won't frame it in that way. He'll just feel outraged and angry toward to woman because his ego demands that the object of his attraction submit to him.
A man who can't get a woman is a lesser man and so a man rejected by a woman feels his masculinity is under attack.
He likely won't frame it in that way. He'll just feel outraged and angry toward to woman because his ego demands that the object of his attraction submit to him.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
@Pikachu I think of that as the simple minded machismo type, which I suppose could be thought of as masculinity. I’m just shocked that you’re inferring it’s a majority of men.
I’ve really only seen it once with an attractive woman I was dating. She’d get hit on non stop. Some rather brazenly imho. She took it in stride, but it seemed like a real pain in the ass as an onlooker.
I’ve really only seen it once with an attractive woman I was dating. She’d get hit on non stop. Some rather brazenly imho. She took it in stride, but it seemed like a real pain in the ass as an onlooker.
redredred · M
A polite refusal is one thing. A snotty put down invites hostility.
ElRengo · 70-79, M
A woman not interested in me is not making a "rejection".
She is the owner of her choices and preferences. And I respect this.
I can make some comments on both sides politness, but don´t seem it´s the main point of the post.
She is the owner of her choices and preferences. And I respect this.
I can make some comments on both sides politness, but don´t seem it´s the main point of the post.
pdockal · 56-60, M
Seriously ?
It's more that men are bashed from every angle and have to be careful how we approach so we don't get into trouble
It's more that men are bashed from every angle and have to be careful how we approach so we don't get into trouble
Doomflower · 36-40, M
When someone rejects me I turn into a spirit being and disappear. Idk how anyone has the balls to flip out.
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JimboSaturn · 51-55, M
I think you should treat everyone politely (provided they are being polite to you).
@JimboSaturn
Sure.
And we're all taught to be polite but that doesn't mean a man is owed a polite rejection in order for him not to react aggressively.
We're already teaching women to be polite. Let's start teaching men to accept rejection peacefully.
Sure.
And we're all taught to be polite but that doesn't mean a man is owed a polite rejection in order for him not to react aggressively.
We're already teaching women to be polite. Let's start teaching men to accept rejection peacefully.
Klingwood · 61-69, M
Why is that to hard to teach a woman? You can't be nice ? But yet women want to be noticed and and have a dreamboat ask her Out bit don't dare the wrong guy approach her.lol you make me laugh.bt the way I see both sides take it badly.so no it wouldn't hurt to be. Ice about how we reject others.
exexec · 61-69, C
I had not thought of that, but it is exactly what my wife did in college when she dated others. She told them up front that she was committed to me and was dating them for fun. When she was ready to dump them, she had already laid the groundwork. "It's not you, but I told you I love Gary." It worked, and all of her exes remained as her friends.
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NinaTina · 26-30, F
Yes and look out when shes on her... Period.
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