Love & Attraction

Only logged in members can reply and interact with the post.
Join SimilarWorlds for FREE »

Do you feel its ok to date a younger guy knowing its not gonna lead anywhere ?

Poll - Total Votes: 76

Yes

Show Results

You can only vote on one answer.

Top | Newest First | Oldest First

1-50 of 54

Ontheroad · M Best Comment

If both of you know/understand it, then no harm, no foul. It is a tricky thing because one or the other can easily catch the feels past the intimate friendship part, but if you start with your cords on the table, so to speak, then go for it.

Hotchocolatezebra · 31-35, F

I don't think age matters as long as both know what they're in for.

Softandsweet2 · 31-35, F

If it’s fun, do it. Just be up front about the “not going anywhere” part.

in10RjFox · M

Absolutely okay as you become a love trainer and help the kid mature. As a young boy I loved older women but unfortunately the system does not permit and makes guys go for younger gals who are not stable.

No relationship leads to anywhere these days but you may have a friend for life.

Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP

@in10RjFox very true ..because thinking about friendship is the ultimate key to getting it right... most ppl can easily keep a friendship going for a lifetime. Sadly thats not always the case with lovers 😕 😔 🤔

in10RjFox · M

@Kae20 well said. I do not know why ppl develop so much animosity and hatred when all can remain friends for life.
I only hear most lovers uniting after many years when they get stranded in later part of life. It's sad to see how they use LOVE as a tool to calibrate in a relationship.

Adogslife · 61-69, M

There’s too much of a difference in the maturity level for me. I don’t think there’s something morally wrong though. Men do it all the time.

Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP

Absolutely is it alright..just so long he's at the age of consent.

As far as or the older woman is concerned, her focus perhaps shouldn't be on whether or not the relationship is going to last? Of course not thinking along those lines is bound to be difficult.

However the emphasis should be on the quality of the relationship. & It took up until recently to realise this. Just as long as you are both happy & contented, everything will be fine 🙂

This comment is hidden. Show Comment

calabaciteh · 36-40, F

Up to you, really.

When you date younger guys, the furthest thing from their mind is committing long term to you. If you're ok with that arrangement, why not?

SW-User

Yes, although a younger guy might expect it to lead somewhere. Feelings and all that jazz

Rokan · 31-35, M

Ive always been upfront in the past about my expectations to avoid hurt feelings or poor communication.

Threepio

For me, she wasn't quite 38, but it was a very memorable 5 years of experiences that I cherish.

FWIW: although we live on different coasts, and run in different circles, to this day we are still Facebook friends and communicate regularly.

YourMomsSecretCrush · M

I mean, it’s a good time. As long as both parties realize the reality of the situation. When I was 36 or so and was going thru a spell of having sex with different waitresses that I was working with a lot of people called me a monster. Of course, that didn’t stop me. 😂😂😂

Jonjdw · 51-55, M

That 19-year-old looks like he’s ready to have fun with that good looking mature lady. What about an older guy?

Fieona · 36-40, F

@Jonjdw This question is relevant to younger guys

Jonjdw · 51-55, M

@Fieona yes. Sorry did not mean to stray of the subject. Just was was asking what came to my mind as I was commenting on the post.

Jonjdw · 51-55, M

@Fieona and ask for further analysis of the question. Could end up being a very memorable and thought about in a good way experience for the both of them. Or maybe years later, maybe not. But life is short, and if both are willing, might as well do it

MasterLee · 56-60, M

Date?

WatchThis · 41-45, M

I'm okay with it in the sense of "it's really none of my business". At 42, I don't think I could make a relationship with that kind of generational gap work

dominateofyou · 61-69, M

yes because an older woman can teach him how to please a woman and he will be able to please more women in the future

sstronaut

If both parties are mentally and physically on the same page, no one is lying nor hiding anything, then what's the issue?

Elessar · 26-30, M

A large age gap (±5) has always felt weird and will always feel weird to me

Miram · 31-35, F

@Elessar Because it is weird. Our understanding of morality from perspective of minimizing suffering is evolving as species.

Of course not all of us. Some have either slower ability to catch the train or none at all.

DownTheStreet · 56-60, M

Just two requirements: 1. He’s mature enough to not go crazy when you dump him, 2. Your husband won’t find out

robertsnj · 56-60, M

sure as long as your are transparent and say you want to date but not be in a relationship

SW-User

I don't see anything wrong with it, especially if it is totally plutonic

eMortal · M

Yes but 19 is too young. The brain doesn't get really mature until 25ish

Miram · 31-35, F

No, a 19 years old is very much still a teenager.

Fieona · 36-40, F

@Miram but over legal age

Miram · 31-35, F

@Fieona Legal doesn't always equal moral. 19 years olds are easily influenced and manipulated. Lot of times their consent isn't as informed as the consent of someone who is in their 30s . And not just in terms of sex but in making compromises for the relationship. The gap/inequality is too large.