I was talking to this guy who…

Is better that he admits it a lot of people who have bdsm interest have an interest in it or the other side, masochism. The next thing you need to liik at is are they a narissist if they are both a narissists and a sadist now we might have a red flag.

I had sadistic friends. They kept it in their bedroom so I had never had any issue with them. Both educated, both very serious about the consent. I used to crush on both at some point but then it clearly turned out that none of them would be a good match for me. 😀 I assume that one is married at this point and I lost connection with the other. Which is a pity because he was an interesting person and I liked him. It's possible he was sado-masochistic actually.

I wonder what kind of relationship did you have with the guy because I was a very good friend with these guys before we discussed these things. I assume it's not something you'd tell someone without knowing them well enough to know they wouldn't start freaking out and scream the bloody murder.

Doesn't sound like a red flag. He was honest/upfront about what he wants.

You can either go with him or run for the hills - either way you know he's honest which is a big thing.

Huge red flag and what do you think it is about you that attracts those types of guys. Are you a sub?

It's not a red flag if he can respect your boundaries and keeps it in the bedroom. If anything it's a green flag because people who are actually controlling would never admit to something like that.

[b]BIG[/b] red flag.

What he seeks is far outside the bounds of a healthy relationship, of mutual love and respect.

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Just because the guy is into BDSM doesn't make him a psychopath. He's obviously part of a community where consent is taken seriously. He must have felt that he'd reached the stage where he could bring this up with you in case you were interested in trying it. If you'd agreed, he would have asked you to specify a "safe word" that would signal to him that you wanted to stop (just yelling "stop, you're hurting me" might not work as the role play could include protest on the part of the victim if the sadist is aroused by that).

He wasn’t admitting to be honest. He was honest to try to sink the hook, your curiosity.

My guess is he’s bad news.

I was talking to a guy who was a serial killer. He seemed nice otherwise and respectful.

you know, i also attract a certain kind of man. kind of had me worried.

If opposites attract, are you a happyist? 🤔

As long as it doesn't go beyond the bedroom I'm not seeing the issue

Triple coated! 🥰

You don't bother with that guy. Take me instead I'm not a sadist.

Run away, run away

It's THE biggest red flag 🚩evuh

Absolutely not a red flag because he was upfront. I know many sadists. I also know quite a few masochists. I’m not sure what you mean by.”those types”- But just because a person person isn’t interested in missionary twice a week until they die, doesn’t make them a bad person

50 shades of grey

If it's not your thing .....

Because you are real...😉

Curiously enough, other than that one thing, the Marquis De Sade was also a bright, well respected dude. 🤣

Make sure when he ties you up on the pentagram he uses a sharp knife.

maybe it's because you are a natural dominant and need to put them in their place

Yep especially if he didn’t tell you at the very beginning