I was talking to this guy who…

admitted to being a sadist. He seems well-rounded & respectful otherwise. Red flag, no?
I mean at least he was honest & direct about it.
I dunno why I keep attracting those types tbh.

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LeopoldBloom · M

Just because the guy is into BDSM doesn't make him a psychopath. He's obviously part of a community where consent is taken seriously. He must have felt that he'd reached the stage where he could bring this up with you in case you were interested in trying it. If you'd agreed, he would have asked you to specify a "safe word" that would signal to him that you wanted to stop (just yelling "stop, you're hurting me" might not work as the role play could include protest on the part of the victim if the sadist is aroused by that).