Can u love someone and treat them with disrespect at the same time ? ⚒️
Some of us talk crap to the people we love. Some of us treat our loved ones with less respect than our friends. Some of us talk about the people we claim to love behind their backs. Some of us lie to the people we love. Some of us even abuse them too. I think you get my point here today. Do you believe that you can love someone and still be disrespectful to them at the same time. Tough question. Best answer wins. Comments. 🤔
Oh we’re twisty turny creatures so I think all kinds of variables are possible. My husband treats strangers more respectfully than the people he says he loves, but he seems to have serious issues with any kind of vulnerability so it’s a sad result of his insecurity I think. For my part, I will always love the man I know is in there and feel compassion for him. I can respect him because he’s human but his behavior damages that and makes it a struggle. I don’t overtly or purposely treat him disrespectfully, although I know I’ve caught myself not taking his feelings into consideration because he always keeps himself so separate. We’re flawed, multifaceted creatures, and sometimes the facets line up better than others.
No that ain’t love that just narcissistic or a abuser or ,both that’s trying see how far he or she can do and if they’re can continue it or lose the person they’re abusing one day the person will leave either immediately or take time or till they’re die 🤷🏻♀️, sorry that’s just how I see it scenarios like that go three ways , I left immediately I was not trying stay in that kinda environment wasn’t hit but different kinda physical abuse but still had hands on me in a different way , Thank God he didn’t come back when ,I cut it off but it was years ago that don’t bug me know more
I think people get complacent with someone they love when they are loved back. They no longer feel the need to be in their best behaviour because they already won. And their disrespect of the other is what their true nature is - possibly even some disdain for anyone loving them. Some people feel underserving of love and when someone loves them, they think there is something wrong with them. So yes, it is possible to love someone and disrespect them. But this person needs help to see how their behaviour is.
@ChulaRp There is another line in the vow ..."in sickness and in health..." and getting fat is not necessarily a 'worse'. Everybody puts on a t least a few useless pounds. You'll see.
Short answer? IMO Sure, you can be disrespectful and a moment of emotion, make amends, commit to doing better in the future, but malice is different, especially rationalized malice. You can be attached to them and care about them a lot, be sexually attracted, all those good feeling things, but a huge part of ‘love’ is an investment in their well-being and happiness. If someone has a pattern of hurting others, then they need to work that shit out in order to have love with someone.
@WhateverWorks I absolutely agree. Some people need to work on themselves internally before getting into a serious long term relationship. Thanks for sharing. 🙂
I think some people have been raised in families whose "love language" is talking shit. My bf is one. He loves me (I think), but there are times when he can be very disrespectful toward me.
