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My husband kinda finds this site sketchy and always has something to say. But the thing is I been on EP since 12 and on here after EP shut down. I had a lot happen to me on EP due to being a minor and I was groomed a lot to the point where the police got involved when I was 14 because of a Pedo on the site and the whole situation was really traumatizing for me. I healed a lot since then and I still love how I'm able to post so freely here and feel like I'm just posting into the void. He doesn't get it he just is like "the site is sketchy" like shut up :( it makes me sad because we moved states and I am taking a break from instagram and Snapchat. So the only time I see people are when friends come to visit or at the gym and sometimes we'll grab coffee after. But still I like this site it helps me feel less alone. I haven't used this website in a while either and I was telling him about it today and he just totally shut it down idk. Like I know he's just looking out for me but it's just pretty annoying how he doesn't even attempt to understand why I'm even on here to begin with. It isn't a big deal it's just like what it is but he makes me feel weird for being on here idk. It's the one issue I have in our relationship so it's not really a big deal it's just frustrating esp since it's been about a decade being on EP -> SW
SophieSmiles · 18-21, F
That happened to me on ep too, I sincerely hope it wasn’t the same person. My family banned me from all social media after that happened. I was an adult when I joined here but they still weren’t overly happy about it, they don’t understand why I like it
LittleBallOfFire · 22-25, F
@SophieSmiles it's really a good site despite the bad people. My family banned me from social media too when I was younger after lol. They don't know I'm back on here they'd be upset and my husband is too. I get it's out of love but I'm not a kid anymore ya know lol
jackson55 · M
@SophieSmiles Creeps none the less.
SophieSmiles · 18-21, F
@jackson55 worse than creeps
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
Everyone who calls out your bullshit is getting their messages deleted. You have shared where you live, you have shared how you look. And you have noooo clue why your partner are worried about how you use this site? 🤦🏻‍♀️
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@LittleBallOfFire OK. Maybe it's best I just leave you to it...
@Queendragonfly [quote]She clearly don't appreciate it so let's just ignore her and go "Told you so" if she comes with whine posts in the future how men have sexually harassed her or stalked her.[/quote]
krf336 · 46-50, M
Being able to post your thoughts with relative anonymity or ask for advice from strangers is nice. If your comfortable that you are safe then it might be nice for you, but it would be hard for others to understand.
Its a good thing that you are letting him know what your doing, rather than just not telling him, that alone should put him a little more at ease. Just tell him that its something you need right now, and you would rather have him be a part of it rather than doing it behind his back and see what he says.
I would ask you however, if your sending it out to the ether, why do you need to post your pictures?
LittleBallOfFire · 22-25, F
@krf336 were both content sellers so we tend to be a bit proactive by nature. The pictures I've posted here I thought were pretty normal compared to my usual
krf336 · 46-50, M
@LittleBallOfFire They are normal, i wasnt judging. Just a question. It makes perfect sense if your a content provider, maybe he is upset because your posting here and not somewhere you can make money.
LittleBallOfFire · 22-25, F
@krf336 true. He isn't concerned about the posting or the men messaging me. He's more concerned with just the platform as a whole and thinks this is a pedophile site (bc of what happened to me on EP). He thinks I'll get in trouble for being on the site so whenever I bring it up he gets scared and worried. He doesn't care about the pictures or the messaging that's not the issue at all. He's okay with me expressing myself and I've always been a free spirit who just likes to post themselves. Some people post their art or their pets. I like to just post me :)
exexec · 61-69, C
She is on here with me.
smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
My husband he really doesn't care that I am on here
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@smileylovesgaming You're 30+ you have a brain you don't share selfies or your location where you live ...

Your husband have no reason to worry because you have no naive behaviour
LittleBallOfFire · 22-25, F
@Queendragonfly my husband is just worried you all are pedophiles and doesn't want me getting in trouble for being on a pedo site. He doesn't understand the website platform that is why he is scared. You along with old man in my comments have some issue with me being hot and calling me naive as if I'm not an adult. Woman are allowed to not live in fear. Grow up
smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
@LittleBallOfFire that is why I put smiley faces on my profile. Some guy wants a sexy pic sure I got one. It's a smiley face. I love what u doing. I got a smiley face working on a computer or playing a game
ThatGirlx · F
I would have agreed with you before but he is correct, even my bf has stopped me from spending so much time on these forums and it’s why I write my thoughts in a journal now and I feel much better mentally, and be honest with yourself these online interactions are superficial and most ppl here are bitter and don’t really want the best for you
LittleBallOfFire · 22-25, F
@ThatGirlx I don't really spend much time on here. Last time was my first time back in 9 months. Before that was a year prior. I just come on here and there to check on things and he immediately shut it down the moment I brought it up
That’s horrible you got groomed on Ep. I’m guessing it was BillyMadison? He never bothered me but I heard he was a pedo. There were a lot of men there that were sneaky as well. I was lucky that I didn’t get in trouble. Your husband might just be afraid some vile creep will trick you into trusting him. There’s still creeps around. Just tell your husband that you won’t trust anyone.
LittleBallOfFire · 22-25, F
@SW-User haha I remember his profile. He is one but he's not the one took it to the next level and got arrested.
jackson55 · M
Nope, she is sitting here with her coffee. Sometimes she reads the comments.
Musicman · 61-69, M
Nooo, not at all.
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@Musicman He must feel like a father who tries to keep his daughter from being abducted.
Musicman · 61-69, M
@Queendragonfly Well with the picture she uses on her profile I can easily understand why. Her inbox has to be blowing up.
Juvia · 18-21, F
He always tells me it's a waste of time

i agree.

hence why I also come here only once in a blue moon minus last time.
Over the past two years I would come once for a week and leave for a year, gotta go back to that soon.
spent 6 years on E,P sorry it closed ,S,W will never fill the E,P space, 1 think 12 was way to young for E,P , did you have the same login name,
LittleBallOfFire · 22-25, F
@jackrabbit10 yeah I did have the same name. And it was definitely too young for EP
@LittleBallOfFire had a few say I was to old for E,P, I had the same name also the #10 was not the same,
GentlemanPirate · 51-55, M
I'm sorry all that happened to you. SW can be a good place to share and listen but there is that element that is beyond creepy. I hope your hubby accepts it eventually
DiabolicalBear · 31-35, M
I haven't seen the pedo stuff here nearly as much as EP, but that could just be people are getting smarter and wise that internet anonymity may protect you from your neighbors views, but it won't protect you from the government if you do something wrong. Also that feature EP had with the anonymous posting really was an interesting idea that turned into a tool often used nefariously.
DiabolicalBear · 31-35, M
@LordShadowfire They have it on facebook now. I see people post anon in some groups.
@DiabolicalBear Of course they fucking do. Haven't they figured it out? Every social network that allows anonymous posting gets overrun with the bad kind of trolls.
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Barefooter25 · 46-50, M
I am so sorry that happened to you. I am glad you are building better relationships here on this site. I liked EP but it was definitely full of perverts and online predators.
StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M
It sounds like you’re wise enough to handle sites like this. It sucks that you had such a hard lesson, tho.
djjohnson · 41-45, M
I know a few people who have been scammed on site like Facebook, the "normal" social media websites. We even helped report a profile as a scammers account and guess what. It's still there. So not sure how your husband defines sketchy but he needs to realize that anywhere you go online is sketchy.
Livingwell · 61-69, M
I get it. I moved as well. It helps my loneliness too. But my wife doesn't like it. If she would engage more, I wouldn't need to be here.
Raaii · 18-21, F
I don't met mind yet I think he'll have no problem with it, I think
Richardfromthebx · 36-40, M
When I was 12 there was no social media
@Richardfromthebx Same here. Honestly, I'm glad. If my dumbest moments had ended up being filmed and uploaded to the internet, I would have been mortified.
nedkelly · 61-69, M
No, my wife does not mind at all
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
I am so sorry you were groomed on EP. I can understand why you like to post here because of the anonymity of the site.

You were not at fault for the grooming no matter what anyone says.
Azlotto · M
No, but she does think it;s silly...Yet her phone has been hacked twice using Facebook.
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@melissa001 and thats why you got cheated on
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Eloach · 26-30, M
@melissa001 ah yes let’s blame children for being groomed by pedophiles.

Why don’t we blame them for getting shot at school, too? Or maybe blame festival goers for being shot? women for being raped?

You’re what’s referred to as an enabler, and you should reconsider your opinion.

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