Is setting your boundaries for your partner insecure, controlling, or for protection?

It's to cover your own ass. If you have no boundaries, you get taken advantage of and screwed over by people. You get walked all over like you're stairs or something. It's important to have boundaries.

Depends on what they are and their purpose.

Depends on the boundaries. If you’re communicating your likes and dislikes to build a good relationship and respectful of your partners needs too, it’s all good. If your setting boundaries to change the other person or trying to bend someone to your will, it won’t work and will do more harm than good.

It's a good way to make her understand that you're in charge.

it can be, i think its really a case by case thing. setting bouderies is important to some degree but can totally be fuelled by insecurity and a desire to control. imagine spending a day with someone that needs to take all the decisions because each context awakens some kind of insecurity so everything needs to always be their way.

The only boundaries I set have been for my wife's safety and the preservation of our relationship.

I would say that creating boundaries is necessary for a healthy relationship.

What boundaries?

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