Is setting your boundaries for your partner insecure, controlling, or for protection?

And if you choose, why is that?

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it can be, i think its really a case by case thing. setting bouderies is important to some degree but can totally be fuelled by insecurity and a desire to control. imagine spending a day with someone that needs to take all the decisions because each context awakens some kind of insecurity so everything needs to always be their way.