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Peapod · 61-69, F
Sometimes "too nice" really means "too passive". I have walked away from guys like that.
I'm married to a guy who is truly kind, but also has a very strong backbone. I have enormous respect for him and respect is something that cannot be underestimated in a relationship.
I'm married to a guy who is truly kind, but also has a very strong backbone. I have enormous respect for him and respect is something that cannot be underestimated in a relationship.
KingsRansom · 46-50, M
Shamed to probably say yes. I don't know if I would say too good/nice, but too agreeable? Where I don't get to know who they are because they are fine being what you "want"?
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Peapod · 61-69, F
@CrazyMusicLover This was my ex husband. He was always "agreeable" to a fault in the beginning. I thought I could be someone that could help him express himself. It didn't work. This guy really had a lot of pent up anger and it started to come out on me and the kids. After 20 years of a progressively abusive marriage, I ended it.
If someone seems "too nice", it really can be a situation of their poor self esteem and inability to be assertive. No one can live that way and they can snap.
If someone seems "too nice", it really can be a situation of their poor self esteem and inability to be assertive. No one can live that way and they can snap.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
@Peapod That sounds very dangerous.
Peapod · 61-69, F
@CrazyMusicLover It was. I had no idea what was really inside him or how to recognize the red flags. There were a lot of passive/aggressive people in my own family.
I'm grateful to be in a place now where I am loved and respected. I'm just sad it took so long to find it.
I'm grateful to be in a place now where I am loved and respected. I'm just sad it took so long to find it.
REMsleep · 41-45, F
Well sometimes if its a romantic connection and the guy's only personality is that he is " nice", its just not enough.
I mean outside of his niceness would you even like hanging out with him?
I've never rejected anyone for being too nice but I can see not liking someone who was really nice to me.
What I mean is that society kind of shames women if they reject a nice guy ( as being for da streets) but you don't have to like him just because he is nice.
I mean outside of his niceness would you even like hanging out with him?
I've never rejected anyone for being too nice but I can see not liking someone who was really nice to me.
What I mean is that society kind of shames women if they reject a nice guy ( as being for da streets) but you don't have to like him just because he is nice.
JustNik · 51-55, F
No, I was the rejectee for that reason. He kind of thrived on drama though so it didn’t break my heart.
SatanBurger · 36-40, FVIP
@JustNik Oh yeah. Usually the people to say this stuff have bad coping mechanisms and aren't mentally healthy. You save yourself. He could have made you pregnant and then you'd be stuck with a drama filled life. Ug. You dodged a bullet.
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I was approached by several men who were 'too nice' before I was married but I was never interested. The men who did interest me were always big, strong and somewhat rough. I got hurt because I didn't understand how to separate strongly masculine from abusive and controling. I always picked the wrong guys. I'm glad I found my husband and he's awesome and perfect ❤️
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
No, that wasn't the reason, I wasn't physically attracted to them first and foremost. I'm not sure if I could reject someone physically attractive for being too nice and decent. Maybe if he was this good Christian boy type with holiness in his eyes. That's definitely nothing for me.
SatanBurger · 36-40, FVIP
The only way I can see your point is if someone was nice in a way that they were being manipulative. I'd argue that's not really nice though, they just expect to get something from it.
Generally though, I been through some narcissistic relationships and literally don't want mean people anymore. I want kind people so I probably can't relate unless you're talking about the first thing I mentioned.
Generally though, I been through some narcissistic relationships and literally don't want mean people anymore. I want kind people so I probably can't relate unless you're talking about the first thing I mentioned.
Curvyvixen · 36-40, F
@SatanBurger no. Just someone who is really nice by nature. Extremely nice
SatanBurger · 36-40, FVIP
@Curvyvixen I understand, some women have daddy issues.
Curvyvixen · 36-40, F
@SatanBurger ya true.
BittersweetPotato · 31-35, F
Too nice could mean naive, and yes, I don't like naive people.
deadgerbil · 26-30
@BittersweetPotato naive potato
REMsleep · 41-45, F
@BittersweetPotato Yes I prefer someone who has been thru a little fire and who can protect me emotionally and physically when needed and handle stress. A really super too nice guy could be all of those things but its not common.
I have rejected some who claimed they were being nice and decent when really they were being passive aggressive gaslighters
No, I only interact with jerks. There are no nice people in my environs.
Oneofthestormboys · 100+, M
No, but I’ve been rejected for that reason. It’s ok though.
NerdyPotato · M
No, but I'm rejected for that all the time 😔
Nanori · F
U mean a doormat?
Strongtea · 22-25, M
Yes I did a couple of years ago, she was one of the first girls I dated. She actually became like super hot afterwards so I totally regret it now, but she was soooo nice and kind back then it made me want to scream!
Greyjedi · M
I figured it would be good for you all to know rejection like this contribute to the creation of rapists. The are other things like control, desire for control and violence that are higher. But it contributes.
Swoop62 · M
Have to say yes as after a while the honey dripping off them wears on me and would certainly not dislike them but would prefer seeing less.
WhateverWorks · 36-40
When I was younger, but that was about my own unresolved issues, not really them.
Convivial · 26-30, F
All it means is you weren't what they were looking for at the time...
Justafantasy · M
I've been told I'm to nice in the past, that was a lifetime ago though
riseofthemachine · 41-45, M
I've being on the other scale of it .
Thats why i like being on my own now
Thats why i like being on my own now
330GTC · 56-60, M
I have been rejected for being too nice
TheOneyouwerewarnedabout · 46-50, MVIP
totes.. they being nice to me, they want something..
melbeacher · 61-69, M
Yes I have. They were just too damn nice !
NewBeginnings7790 · 41-45, F
Yeah, sometimes it just feels like fake bs…
Lostlostlost · 51-55, M
Yes, I’m afraid to say I have
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
No, that seems silly.
Curvyvixen · 36-40, F
@DearAmbellina2113 people do silly things, don't they? Have you never done any silly thing?
Saintweezer · 36-40, M
Yes, it was because they were ugly
SW-User
no, that would be stupid
SW-User
No
SW-User
No
empanadas · 31-35, M
Decent yeah, in my community alot women want the fuck ups.
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