Have you ever rejected someone for being too nice or decent?

Sometimes even being Too Good also doesn't work for all. Do you feel same?

Not talking about pretenders here.

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KingsRansom · 46-50, M

Shamed to probably say yes. I don't know if I would say too good/nice, but too agreeable? Where I don't get to know who they are because they are fine being what you "want"?

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

@KingsRansom I know what you mean. One day it might burst and suddenly you learn who they truly are and it will be too late.

KingsRansom · 46-50, M

@CrazyMusicLover Yeah. That and I would feel like I am dealing with a blank canvas, much like your "Christian boy" example. Playing a role. I don't need good, but I need good to me.

Peapod · 61-69, F

@CrazyMusicLover This was my ex husband. He was always "agreeable" to a fault in the beginning. I thought I could be someone that could help him express himself. It didn't work. This guy really had a lot of pent up anger and it started to come out on me and the kids. After 20 years of a progressively abusive marriage, I ended it.

If someone seems "too nice", it really can be a situation of their poor self esteem and inability to be assertive. No one can live that way and they can snap.

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

@Peapod That sounds very dangerous.

Peapod · 61-69, F

@CrazyMusicLover It was. I had no idea what was really inside him or how to recognize the red flags. There were a lot of passive/aggressive people in my own family.

I'm grateful to be in a place now where I am loved and respected. I'm just sad it took so long to find it.