My suspicions were right !

The truth is out. She has certainly told him about your call.

Furthermore, the fact that you took his phone, and called, means that the trust between the two of us was already broken.

You need to:

1) pick yourself up using whatever means available to you: close friends (yours, not his), family, therapy, going for walks ... whatever it takes. If you remain in that mental fog, you will not be able to function.

2) if you can't move out, then make him believe that things are OK, and start developing a plan to get yourself independent. Don't wait until tomorrow to get this started.

3) don't believe he will change. He's not going to, but don't try to argue the issue, it won't matter.

4) give yourself space, within the relationship. He may try all sorts of things to "woo" you back. It might be tough for you to say no, but try to in order to protect yourself from false hope.

Shit I'm so sorry. But remember once a cheater always a cheater. I gave my fiance a second chance and he cheated yet again. This time he hid things quite smartly.

One should never uproot their entire life over some job or some lover that probably won't last anyway. With romance specifically, it's one thing to enjoy being with them but is it worth turning one's own life upside down over something that will probably fall apart anyway?

You didn't trust him to begin with to invade his privacy. And now he has little reason to trust you.

If the truth is out, it's time to sit down calmly and confront the issue; semi-public would be advisable. If no defense will do for you, then don't entertain any excuses. If you want to talk about it, come ready to listen and respond. Not [i]react[/i].

And here's the last problem; no one should enter a relationship until they can emotionally and financially stand on their own. Most all relationships end - it's just a matter of numbers. With no reserves, you suddenly become trapped.

This is truly awful for you, but you survived the last time; you'll survive this, too. It's okay to feel the anger, the pain, the depression, the loss, all of it. But protect your heart and reach out - no doubt there are people in your life who'll help any way they can. Follow your heart, follow your instinct and wait for this storm to pass. Hoping the Universe holds you tightly....

No one wants a dirty dick. Kick him to the curb

i mean u can still gaslight him and get everything back, the best revenge is success lol

I think you owe your boyfriend an apology for accessing his phone. Hopefully, he will forgive you.

Leaving is everything behind is difficult and that's happened to me 3 times. I can't tell you what it's like being cheated on because that's not happened as such although I did think I was at one point.
For me if someone cheats it's game over and the trust has gone. When there's no trust there's no relationship because you can't get past it. You might leave with nothing but you'd still have your dignity. Could you go somewhere like your parents or a friend's even if you have to sleep on a sofa? Do you have kids because the local authority would have to place you somewhere if your homeless.

Good luck finding your way out of that. Maybe your last experience gave you some resilience that will help.

Many men will cheat. You can find another man but make sure he’s the right one.

If I find out I’m not wanted at the party, I leave. If I gave a guest that misbehaves, I ask them to leave. I suggest a short, clear conversation. “Why” is not important. “What the fuck were you thinking?” seems relevant. Find out if the deal is still the deal, then figure out if you still want the deal.

And the car.

I am so so sorry you’re going through this again. And I wish I had some answers for you.
Fact is, some people are just terrible and they fkn suck.

I’ve been through this myself, and I can listen well and be supportive.
Feel free to reach out if you want someone to talk to.
😞

Thats truly a terrible dilemma. I think in your shoes, Id start to lay plans to leave (accumulate money, look for alternative places), because long term that's totally fucked, you cant survive in that space.

I'm really sorry for the pain of this, I can only imagine.

Get rid of him.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Even if you decide you can’t leave right now you can decide to quietly work on your escape plan so that you can exit the situation at a time when you feel more secure.

I am in my 50s and finally got up the courage to leave , it wasnt easy but glad I did as I am happier and my mental health has also improved . You need to take the first step and then just keep going it does get easier .

start planning how you can live independently ,regardless of what you decide to do, being able to leave should always be an option ,otherwise it becomes a reason to stay

Start saving cash and make a plan to move. It may take some time, but it will be worth it.
Just before you move, kick him in the gonads a few hundred times, then walk out.

Glad you caught him now...rather than later.
I am so sorry that he broke your heart, he is a lying and cheating piece of shit.

So sorry this is happening to you , been through it myself , its heartbreaking .

The piece of shit should have left you first. What an ass! Kick him out

Sorry. You can inbox me if you want to talk about it some more.

so sorry dear.

That's sad😢

I am really sorry.