My suspicions were right !

I had a feeling for months that my boyfriend was cheating on me .. and I was right. Recently found evidence on his phone. The girls name was saved as a contact in a guys name !! I called that b*%$h. And she denied everything .. I know the difference.. I seen messages and FaceTime calls to each other. My heart is broken into a million pieces .. I cannot believe I'm dealing with this again. My ex cheated on me. Took me forever to get over it and move on. And here I am again .. what's next ? Do I forgive and forget ? I don't think I will ever trust him again now :( I uprooted my life from hometown almost 5 years Ago. Left everything behind .. if I walk out now. I have basically nothing. Not even a car to drive .. my life is falling apart 💔. I don't see a way out. Yet !! If I stay. It'll drive me crazy ! I don't think he has her number deleted off his phone. .. that can only mean one thing !? So broken 😞

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Northwest · M

The truth is out. She has certainly told him about your call.

Furthermore, the fact that you took his phone, and called, means that the trust between the two of us was already broken.

You need to:

1) pick yourself up using whatever means available to you: close friends (yours, not his), family, therapy, going for walks ... whatever it takes. If you remain in that mental fog, you will not be able to function.

2) if you can't move out, then make him believe that things are OK, and start developing a plan to get yourself independent. Don't wait until tomorrow to get this started.

3) don't believe he will change. He's not going to, but don't try to argue the issue, it won't matter.

4) give yourself space, within the relationship. He may try all sorts of things to "woo" you back. It might be tough for you to say no, but try to in order to protect yourself from false hope.

Ifollowmyownstar · 41-45, F

2. Is the plan right now. @Northwest