Seriously consider your privilege if you can complain about complainers 😂
What do you know about the brain, experience and psyche of each individual?
And do you even care?
And do you even care?
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HijabaDabbaDoo · F
I think there's a huge difference between someones way of processing and someone who over identifies with their problems to the point they remain stuck. I'm not talking about unprocessed trauma but the ones that channel their unhealthy coping mechanisms to birth another problem. When you're on the receiving end of said chronic complainers what they're doing is dyregulating their own nervous system and everyone else's around them. That perpetuates a cycle and a dynamic bigger than themselves.
I don't think human behaviour is black and white so, I wouldn't consider it a privilege. We all have a lot to complain about and there's nothing wrong with that, or in even getting it right, we're all learning. It's no one faults but it is their responsibility. Beyond a certain point, as long as it's being actively worked on, I get it.
I don't think human behaviour is black and white so, I wouldn't consider it a privilege. We all have a lot to complain about and there's nothing wrong with that, or in even getting it right, we're all learning. It's no one faults but it is their responsibility. Beyond a certain point, as long as it's being actively worked on, I get it.
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ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
@HijabaDabbaDoo but that's not something I am arguing against 😂
Have you not seen my posts? Do you think I have zero understanding that people are going through hell?
Have you not seen my posts? Do you think I have zero understanding that people are going through hell?
HijabaDabbaDoo · F
@ScreamingFox lol I feel like wires are being crossed a little here. I'm not tryna be right, just sharing my take like the rest of us.
I know you mean well. So do I. Just know I'm not and wasn't making any judgements on you, personally.
I know you mean well. So do I. Just know I'm not and wasn't making any judgements on you, personally.
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
@HijabaDabbaDoo I know you aren't lady 🖤
I'm just trying to stick up for people who complain because it can be cathartic to be heard even if there isn't a solution.
I'm just trying to stick up for people who complain because it can be cathartic to be heard even if there isn't a solution.
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
@TheDeathOCuHullainn Fair.
I interpreted it how I did with the information I had. Then had my own thoughts. I'm a human. Unfortunately.
I interpreted it how I did with the information I had. Then had my own thoughts. I'm a human. Unfortunately.
@ScreamingFox You and me both
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
@TheDeathOCuHullainn I would rather be a tree or a rock
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
@DearAmbellina2113 A lot of people don't understand.
My therapist shared some stuff about EDMR with me that helped me understand the ways we use to cope are part of us..they are not bad, even if they aren't the best possible resolution.
When I used to cut people thought I was psycho, but I've since learned it was my brain trying to cope with all the pain. It's not shameful. Ffs we already feel enough shame. We've already thought and over thought about solutions. We simply want to exist and speak. Just because the extreme hurt we go through isn't relatable to everyone doesn't mean they get to shame us too.
My therapist shared some stuff about EDMR with me that helped me understand the ways we use to cope are part of us..they are not bad, even if they aren't the best possible resolution.
When I used to cut people thought I was psycho, but I've since learned it was my brain trying to cope with all the pain. It's not shameful. Ffs we already feel enough shame. We've already thought and over thought about solutions. We simply want to exist and speak. Just because the extreme hurt we go through isn't relatable to everyone doesn't mean they get to shame us too.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
@DearAmbellina2113 Someone complaining about strangers venting on social media is a special kind of snowflake. Do I need to bring crayons to explain to you where the block and mute button is? Or how to use a wheel on a mouse to scroll past things that don't interest you? Nobody forces you to read or even see posts by other users.
For some people this place is all they have. Some just come here to focus on things that annoy them. That is also a choice but that would need a bit of self-reflection on their part to realize they deliberately seek out things to be mad about.
For some people this place is all they have. Some just come here to focus on things that annoy them. That is also a choice but that would need a bit of self-reflection on their part to realize they deliberately seek out things to be mad about.
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ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
@CrazyMusicLover I just imagine people who don't truly understand making judgments. This isn't okay because they do so without understanding and make it harder for people who are simply trying to exist in a world that doesn't help nor care.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
@ScreamingFox I just don't understand the loud judgement at all. What for? I judge too, everyone does but if I say it out loud, will it change anything? No. It just has potential to make someone feel bad for no reason. If you truly care about someone and want to help them, you try to have a private talk with them, not mock and tease, especially indirectly.
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
@CrazyMusicLover best comment right here...
They have to say something to pick and then label themselves "entitled" to say something, yet people who are having a hard time have to hold it in for the people who just can't be bothered. That equates to privilege in my mind.
Literally nothing can be said and we can all go about our lives.
They have to say something to pick and then label themselves "entitled" to say something, yet people who are having a hard time have to hold it in for the people who just can't be bothered. That equates to privilege in my mind.
Literally nothing can be said and we can all go about our lives.
FrugalNoodle · 46-50, M
When you live with a complainer, you have a special insight into it, and can thus complain about it, but not if one wants to attain Buddhahood.
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
@FrugalNoodle I spend my days and nights with elderly who have Alzheimer's.
All anyone has to do is listen and not let it hurt them. It's not that complicated.
All anyone has to do is listen and not let it hurt them. It's not that complicated.
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ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
@SwampFlower There's definitely people who become abusive to others when they won't deal with their junk. I have been tied to that my whole life lol