Seriously consider your privilege if you can complain about complainers 😂

@TheDeathOCuHullainn 😂 yes exactly 😂 😂 😂

I wasn't offended, just bringing another perspective into the mix. To me that's what public space is about, we all get to share. Plenty of times I've been able to discover a different perspective that brought me clarity. That's 😍, not offensive. If we didn't differ we'd never learn.

But I do feel softly for people who struggle. The more I learn about psychology and the human mind in my own healing journey, the more I realize we're all trying to cope as best we can. Sometimes it comes across to others as defeated when it's been released for many possible reasons. If I don't speak up, who am I but a part of that pain that I know very well?

@ScreamingFox There is a difference between speaking up and allowing the negativity to become who someone is.

What I mean by that, some people have a very toxic trait where they see themselves as the only noble person in an ignoble world. They feel let down by everyone and everything.

They draw empathic people to them, people who genuinely want to help. They will use that person up and spit them out. Consume them with their own toxic baggage and life's failures. As soon as that person cannot cope, and lets them down, they will be added to a long list of disappointments. Just another person who has failed them.

These people wear their suffering like a badge of honor and will never be satisfied by whatever help they receive, because suffering and their martyrdom is their whole personality. It is who they are. They are never sated and only consume. They never look inward and consider if they are part of the problem because its easier to look externally.

@TheDeathOCuHullainn I understand there are people out there like that. My ex bf was exactly like that, but many people aren't like that and I don't feel it's my place to comment.

My fear is the attractiveness of people seeing, hey I don't like complainers, then joining in, then everyone that complains gets an extreme reaction or judgement to what they share.

Yes people develop narcissistic traits as a way to cope. I fully admit to having those moments too, but it wasn't all I was or would ever be.

People develop all kinds of coping mechanisms in response to all kinds of reasons. Psychology is vast and complicated and best worked through with a trained individual who that person connects with.

My issue isn't with your issue with people who have lost themselves to the narcissism. It's an issue with the vague call outs that people internalize and associate with any complaint. I believe we are allowed to complain/vent in a safe place with people who are prepared/willing for it or can easily ignore it without needing to comment.

It's not offensive to me, but the approach is. Because now I have to beat off people explaining the most extreme scenario when those aren't common. And it's explained so vaguely it becomes offensive to people who are going through something.

I will talk psychology anytime someone wants to get respectfully deep. I'm alive to learn and go through stuff.

But I do see humanity's predisposition to label and lump together a thousand degrees of any given topic to simplify it and manage it. I speak up when I see undeserving people/scenarios being lumped in.

I'm a peacemaker not a fighter. I've come to realize they need to look similar when dealing with moral dilemmas. So yes I spoke too.

@ScreamingFox I understand what you are saying. With all due respect and I mean this respectfully, that post was about someone I know in my own personal life. When I post something here, I don't owe you or anyone else an explanation about what it specifically references. How other people interpret the post is up to them

@TheDeathOCuHullainn Fair.

I interpreted it how I did with the information I had. Then had my own thoughts. I'm a human. Unfortunately.

@ScreamingFox You and me both

@TheDeathOCuHullainn I would rather be a tree or a rock