Bella98 · 26-30
Being too perfect. It makes other just SO envious of me! ☺😂
being · 36-40, F
Maybe as your username suggests, you've been rejected and rejecting a lot?
I've been working with my rejections for a long looong time. Allowing myself to be rejected, allowing the freedom to others to be themselves and reject me if they need to, without me sitting in the back and mourning the relationship.
And also, allowing myself to say No and still feel loving feelings for the other person. Like, rejection doesn't mean ceasing of love.
I am still on my way to doing the work.
It is not easy because all we want in the end is to be loved. But we need to remember, love has to come from a place of freedom. I am finding that the more genuine I become with this, the more loving relationships I attract.
I've been working with my rejections for a long looong time. Allowing myself to be rejected, allowing the freedom to others to be themselves and reject me if they need to, without me sitting in the back and mourning the relationship.
And also, allowing myself to say No and still feel loving feelings for the other person. Like, rejection doesn't mean ceasing of love.
I am still on my way to doing the work.
It is not easy because all we want in the end is to be loved. But we need to remember, love has to come from a place of freedom. I am finding that the more genuine I become with this, the more loving relationships I attract.
FrozenWasteland · 61-69, M
It's both a blessing and a curse, but I have a compelling desire, almost a need, to understand things that impact my life.
It's good, in a way, because I make my living solving problems for people, where understanding their problem at a deep level is essential.
It's also difficult, because I feel that same desire to reach a similar depth of understanding of things that cannot readily be understood, or where there just isn't enough information, and that kind of makes me crazy. Things like "What is it about such-and-such a piece of music that I love so much", "Why is looking up at a brilliant star-filled sky so captivating?" or "What on earth is going on in her mind?"
Now that I write this, I'm not even sure it's my worst trait. Several more come to mind. But I'll let it go at that -- I've beaten myself up enough for one morning... :-)
It's good, in a way, because I make my living solving problems for people, where understanding their problem at a deep level is essential.
It's also difficult, because I feel that same desire to reach a similar depth of understanding of things that cannot readily be understood, or where there just isn't enough information, and that kind of makes me crazy. Things like "What is it about such-and-such a piece of music that I love so much", "Why is looking up at a brilliant star-filled sky so captivating?" or "What on earth is going on in her mind?"
Now that I write this, I'm not even sure it's my worst trait. Several more come to mind. But I'll let it go at that -- I've beaten myself up enough for one morning... :-)
Reject · 31-35, M
@FrozenWasteland I think that sounds like a really good thing though! It inspires critical thought which is very beneficial. Sure there are times when human understanding has its limits, but even coming to accept that which cannot be understood yet could make you understand it in a different way if that makes sense. Lol.
The worst thing about being me is that I've spent most of my life dying rather than living, not in the literal sense but mentally, spiritually and emotionally. Then my physical health went into decline too. Without medication I couldn't get through a single day.
My worst trait is that I'm self destructive when pushed into certain corners.
My worst trait is that I'm self destructive when pushed into certain corners.
Reject · 31-35, M
@ostfuidctyvm What exactly do you mean by dying. What gives you that idea? Is it dying as in you wish you did more with your life or something else?
@Reject It's hard to put into words but basically I've just been keeping my head down and waiting to die for all of my adult life. When I wasn't trying to make it happen myself that is. I've done many things and I've been many places, I've been very lucky like that, but I never had ambitions or dreams, things just happened. I'm either actively or passively focussed on the end, always. It's only with a whole lot of damage and medication that I can keep it passive rather than active.
Reject · 31-35, M
@ostfuidctyvm I know that feeling. I’ve been wanting to die ever since I was a kid. I always had ambitions and dreams though. It was failure in the pursuit of them that exasperated wanting to check out of everything. If I had to describe it, it’s a feeling that tells you things are so bad they couldn’t possibly be worse because anything that brings you closer to the end would be a mercy.
GerOttman · 70-79, M
I don't connect well with others. I've often felt like I exist inside a membrane of some sort. I can see and hear others but we can never really touch. My wife is the only one to ever really get inside that bubble.
Peek4U · M
Feeling the need to respond to everyone's posted questions... thinking they may enjoy my comedic responses.... it is probably my worst trait but likely bothers others more than myself.
With that said, I have decided to control that urge right after making this post...I promise.... again
With that said, I have decided to control that urge right after making this post...I promise.... again
That it's very very difficult for me to walk away from people once I care about them, even if they don't care about me I remain waiting . Kinda like emotional dependance. I rarely get close to most people but once it happens I hate that..
Poppies · 61-69, F
This is not something I want to dwell on. I think about negative things about myself often enough without going out of my way to do it. Instead I try to think about areas where I should try to do better, and how. Only a slight difference but just a little more hopeful.
Harmonium1923 · 56-60, M
@Poppies That’s really well said. ❤
RogueLodyte · M
I have a tendency to 'pile on' when I am right. Being correct and just letting it go is never satisfying enough.
Reject · 31-35, M
@RogueLodyte I’ve done that before too. I think the only thing that stopped me was knowing I could always be right when I wanted to be and how wrong that turned out for others I knew. I guess being right stopped mattering to me when it harmed those I care about.
RogueLodyte · M
@Reject And that is exactly what happens.
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
Physically my body holds me back. It fights itself no matter how healthy I try to be.
Otherwise, I'm just an unlikable person. Some people see me through my flaws, most people think I'm garbage.
I don't let it stop me
Otherwise, I'm just an unlikable person. Some people see me through my flaws, most people think I'm garbage.
I don't let it stop me
Reject · 31-35, M
@ScreamingFox At least there’s some people who can see the good does of you. They matter more than anyone who can’t see it. Health can be really frustrating, especially if you see it as the worst part of you, but since it doesn’t stop you, I’d say you’re doing great. I know many who are stopped by much less.
YoMomma ·
I’ve had my vices but i’m working on losing them 😒
I overthink and second guess myself too much
BillyMack · 46-50, M
People pleasing has been a big one for me
TheOneyouwerewarnedabout · 46-50, MVIP
Being awesome 🕺
Reject · 31-35, M
@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout If that’s your worst trait, then what’s your best trait? 😅
Nunki · 31-35, F
I can be annoyingly indecisive at times.
Beautywithin · 36-40, F
Too emotional, it can be a blessing but also a curse.
Reject · 31-35, M
@Beautywithin To feel deeply can certainly cause problems, but that’s also responsible for all the solutions so I’d encourage it personally.
Kiesel · 56-60, M
Too emotional and soft hearted
Iwillwait · M
Over-Thinking
shinyplasticlove · 51-55, M
Over analyzing.
Reject · 31-35, M
@shinyplasticlove I’m curious, how does someone analyze something too much? Do you come to the wrong conclusions about it?
shinyplasticlove · 51-55, M
@Reject I look at the pros and cons of everything but more the cons.
Reject · 31-35, M
@shinyplasticlove Hmm. So you think it makes you kind of negative?
Orphic · F
Being genuine and sincere, people no longer can handle it.
GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M
The severe psychopathy.
Reject · 31-35, M
@GeistInTheMachine Wouldn’t a true psychopath not feel bad about being one?
GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M
@Reject Who says I feel bad about it?🤔
Reject · 31-35, M
@GeistInTheMachine Well I did say the worst thing about you in my post. This means you’d feel bad if you think that’s the worst thing about you, right? That the meaning of being the worst.
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Lilnonames · F
When confronted and some one starts a fight. I fight to win, and I hurt them. But so be it😁💪
Reject · 31-35, M
@Lilnonames That doesn’t sound so bad! Almost like self defense in a way. I don’t imagine many of us feel bad for whatever happens to someone who starts trouble.
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