What’s your worst trait?

I found myself thinking about this tonight. What is the worst thing about being you? It can be a physical trait, or even emotional one like a character flaw. Whatever comes to your mind.

I think for me it’s the fact that I don’t have a positive presence or connection to anyone’s life who ever got to know me. I have a lot of shallow relationships that are great, but I realized that whenever I got closer to someone and they saw the deeper sides of me, that only resulted in their pity or hatred for me. Understanding people is normally supposed to do the opposite and create love, but not in my case. There’s no one I’ve ever met who got to see me, the rest of me, and decided I was worthwhile. My interactions are always genuine, but the full picture is what people don’t like. I guess I’m much more attractive as a puzzle piece rather than the completed set.

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being · 36-40, F

Maybe as your username suggests, you've been rejected and rejecting a lot?

I've been working with my rejections for a long looong time. Allowing myself to be rejected, allowing the freedom to others to be themselves and reject me if they need to, without me sitting in the back and mourning the relationship.

And also, allowing myself to say No and still feel loving feelings for the other person. Like, rejection doesn't mean ceasing of love.

I am still on my way to doing the work.
It is not easy because all we want in the end is to be loved. But we need to remember, love has to come from a place of freedom. I am finding that the more genuine I become with this, the more loving relationships I attract.

Reject · 31-35, M

@being I think you’d find someone if you wanted to! I’m not surprised you’re finding better and better relationships. You’re very self aware which means you can always improve.