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Vintage06 · 22-25, F
I think it would not matter what you say as long as you are sincere and confident in what you are saying.
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nightwing316 · 36-40, M
@Vintage06: True. I am not ashamed of myself just I have social anxiety starting a conversation, be it online or IRL.
Vintage06 · 22-25, F
Well don't you are perfect the what you are !
nightwing316 · 36-40, M
@Vintage06: thank you. You are very kind :)
Greet her, ask how they are, then ask if its cool if you can chill w her for a little bit while you drink your cup. Then let conversation go back and forth. Not every woman wants to be complimented but if there wearing a nice piece of jewelry or if their looking extra nicely put together, then maybe a quick mention will be nice.
But just be yourself :-)) 😁
But just be yourself :-)) 😁
I'm a dance instructor and I find that some of my customers/students are a little shy and I usually get to know their names and give them recognition for various reasons. They may have on a cute outfit, have a great groove or whatever and it helps.
So, I've also gone as far as introducing students to one another in small talk after or before class. It helps bring walls down and ppl have been able to be less shy. I love when ppl become friends.
Maybe you can speak w your Yoga instructor, sharing this topic with them and see if your instructor can maybe ask the customers out for coffee after class. This starts fun times and conversation happens organically.
You'll see :>
It works. I've done this and loved the results
So, I've also gone as far as introducing students to one another in small talk after or before class. It helps bring walls down and ppl have been able to be less shy. I love when ppl become friends.
Maybe you can speak w your Yoga instructor, sharing this topic with them and see if your instructor can maybe ask the customers out for coffee after class. This starts fun times and conversation happens organically.
You'll see :>
It works. I've done this and loved the results
nightwing316 · 36-40, M
@NoraOnora: I will definitely try and ask her. Not sure if it will be awkward for her. Maybe we can talk over pm if that is ok with you?
i don't think it will be awkward for her. Maybe you can invite people and make it a fun adventure. You never know how fun it can turn out to be
Or... I'm not sure where you are in the world, but there's this activities group called MeetUp and they have "meetups" all the time. I attend them alone and I end up meetimg all sorts of cool people. I've met up for a dragon rowing team, a few hiking adventures, a work out group, a singing group, a comedy/kareoke meet up gathering, several paranormal investigation meet up groups, storytelling one.... you may love it!
Or... I'm not sure where you are in the world, but there's this activities group called MeetUp and they have "meetups" all the time. I attend them alone and I end up meetimg all sorts of cool people. I've met up for a dragon rowing team, a few hiking adventures, a work out group, a singing group, a comedy/kareoke meet up gathering, several paranormal investigation meet up groups, storytelling one.... you may love it!
nightwing316 · 36-40, M
so just refrain complimenting on her smile, eyes etc?
You know, I have a colleague who has Aspergers and he's socially awkward. After observing him for some time, I found his tempo. He's the nicest person. He enjoys being told he is a great nurse, he likes to analyze things and if you can keep up with him and keep the momentum of conversation going with facts, humor and other things, he opens up. Since I've been his acquaintance at work, he's surprised me twice with "I miss you! Where've you been???"
I broke his barrier!
:>
Mission accomplished:>
I think you're well on your way to melting away the degree of your social anxiety
I broke his barrier!
:>
Mission accomplished:>
I think you're well on your way to melting away the degree of your social anxiety
nightwing316 · 36-40, M
Few examples?
nightwing316 · 36-40, M
@GJOFJ3: I will definitely try. Continuing the conversation is harder than starting.
nightwing316 · 36-40, M
Define normal?
nightwing316 · 36-40, M
What do you suggest?
SW-User
say your in a bar/ask what's your fav drink? and then buy one
you may jog past some girl /you say nice weather for a jog , time of day you enjoy jogging, ask her's
I mean it all depends on the location/situation ..adapt
Now I feel awkward
you may jog past some girl /you say nice weather for a jog , time of day you enjoy jogging, ask her's
I mean it all depends on the location/situation ..adapt
Now I feel awkward
nightwing316 · 36-40, M
No need to be awkward. Thank you for your suggestion :D Usually those small talks don't usually get anywhere hence I stop myself from saying anything.
You have totally bad intentions.. Complementing strange women on how attractive they are is strange at best and perhaps even creepy
nightwing316 · 36-40, M
Hence I am asking here. Someone suggested complimenting is the best way but it does sounds odd for me to complement a total stranger.
SW-User
definitely not body parts, that comes off as creepy. Try a joke or a question that makes her think.
nightwing316 · 36-40, M
I think most people start with complaining about weather but it's a dead end topic and doesn't go anywhere.