Ok, I understand. But two things - first, there are plenty of reports of the EU's efforts toward greater unity being primarily a project of its elites - not of the populations of the countries involved. In many countries the populations are becoming upset with the interference of this extra national body, and not just the EU Parliament - but the bureaucrats and the courts into everyone's business. Stratfor and Geopolitical Futures are two think tanks that think the EU is facing tremendous strains to its unity.
Second point - this is an extra national government - dictating to sovereign countries. The UK is not a occupied country, or one that has totally failed its population and needs intervention. It's a sovereign country with a thousand plus year history, and it's freedoms and opportunities are being decided elsewhere?? Something really doesn't sound right.
The border issue is workable. I know it's problematic - and everyone knew it would be - but that's a workable problem. As for the negotiations - why shouldn't they push for the best deal? And I don't understand why there is a price to leave at all?? 60 billion Euros?... Seriously?!? I don't understand why your government doesn't just say "no" we're not paying that - let's negotiate the rest, but that is off the table. Period. I mean, the arrogance of the EU to demand payment of any kind - almost justifies Brexit by itself. It certainly confirms it.
Just my thoughts.