So...What do you think about checking each others phones? Is it toxic lol? Many people say you...

LucyFuhr · 56-60, F

That's right up there with checking someone's purse or wallet for me LOL
I usually carry 2 phones, one is personal and the other is usually provided by my clients and there are some really questionable things on them that would be misunderstood, out of context. Even by a significant other.
I (personally) don't have anything to hide, but if I did, it'd be my prerogotative.
Being in a relationship doesn't mean complete disclosure. At least not to me.

For the record, I used to be a checker... til I found something I didn't want to see LOL

Saucylover · 26-30, F

Just as a gentle reminder, this is a post asking about your thoughts on this question. It is in no way in support or against phone searching lol. I just wanted opinions, but it seems that most of you are against going through each other's phones. I think in today's times, our phones are more private than our social security cards. They have so much personal information on them. It was interesting to see everyone's responses.

nonsensiclesnail · F

If I can’t pick up my partners phone and I use it without him freaking out, that’s a problem. But at no point should I feel good about going through his phone looking for the fucked up shit he does.
Going through someone’s things for the purpose of checking on them and what they are up to is a pretty good sign that I have no self worth and/ or the relationship is trash. And if I have no self worth I should probably walk away until I can see my worth.

Heavenlywarrior · 36-40, M

No thanks. I won’t go through anyone else’s phone. And I want the same respect.

I’ve been there. The anxiety is too much. Next you’ll be trying to figure out who the hell they are texting and why they are smiling so much.

They could be writing a novel on their phone. Lol

PiecingBabyFaceTogether · 31-35, M

I don't like the idea but if we're both ok with it happening like twice a year just for fun and out of curiosity it wouldn't hurt. As for the passwords no that's a bit too much.