I really don’t know when and how it happened

But I seem to have become quite socially awkward, I never used to be this way, but now I have to have some alcohol (apart from when I’m at church etc) and have to be pushed into going out. Maybe it’s just because as I’ve got older and gone out more, more negative stuff has happened (getting drunk and doing something embarrassing, getting scared of rowdy people, falling etc.)
I don’t know. 🫤😳🥺

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rubyaruba · 18-21, F

We are entering a reality where people are aware of how they are being perceived! It is hard for some of us to accept this and continue acting in our truest form when we know that others are judging us. It may help if you set the intention to not judge others (not saying that you do, just something that helped me), and to do something my therapist called exposure activities, where you do little things to expose yourself on purpose. So that could be purposely dropping your keys in public, or starting a conversation with a stranger. It gets better and its completely normal and valid to feel this way <3

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Thankyou for that, that’s so helpful! I will try to do some of those things, although even dropping something in public seems mortifying! @rubyaruba

CestManan · 46-50, F

Soon after we are out of school and get dumped into the real world, everything just sucks.

It is like we are expected to grow up overnight. I remember going through that transition.
You will make it. :)

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Thankyou! That makes me feel loads better! 😊@CestManan

CestManan · 46-50, F

@Strongtea Welcome. :) Hey I been through it, life is a b*tch I tell ya.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

Going out as in clubbing?

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Not clubbing as such, but I do find that a bit nerve wracking, I suppose it’s more when I have to talk to people, I always worry I’ll have nothing to say. It’s more around other boys, I seem to get on with girls more.@Queendragonfly

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@Strongtea Wait. Boys talk?

Isn't the guy convos super short and shallow like

Guy 1: You hit up that girl?

Guy 2: yeah

Guy 3. Was it nice ?

Guy 4. Did you fuck?

Guy 2: yep

Guys: NIIIIICE

Change of subject

Guy 1: How was wotk?
Guy 2,3,4: okay. Tired as usual.
Guy 1: Sucker's. I was promoted.
Guy 2,3,4: You slept with your boss?
Guy 1: Third' time yesterday.
Guy 2,3,4: Niiiiiice

Change of subject

Guy 3: You going to the game next weekend?
Guy 1,2: Can't. Promised wife and kids to stay home.
Guy 3: Suckers
Guy 4: Yeah I'm going.
Guy 3: NIIIIICE

Strongtea · 22-25, M

Haha! But yes it is a bit like that and I find it hard to deal with. But at the same time I don’t think I’m the deepest of thinkers (or I find it hard to translate my deepness into conversations.) @Queendragonfly

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