I dont think I'm capable of real love.

Might be an unpopular opinion but I think love isn't something you're after or actively trying to look for. Or at least it shouldn't be. I think ppl take love or "the idea of love" and put it on this pedestal. Put so much pressure on it. Some ppl do it without even asking why it means so much to them personally. But the truth is it's too much pressure to put on ourselves (and others)because we're all only human. I don't even think when we use that word, we all mean the same thing. I mean love is a very subjective word that can't be put into a tiny box and used universally. And it shouldn't be. People try to do that and I think that's why they fail or end up feeling like they aren't capable of finding this real love everyone seems to speak of. We do this with a lot of things in life.. we use words like love, happiness, peace, success. All these words that sound cool in awesome idealistically. But in the pursuit of all it sometimes we just end up miserable. Because as cool as all of it sounds, by thinking that way all you do is wrap yourself in chains. You bind and limit yourself to these ideas that are almost impossible to truly live up to. That's why it's so important to have your own identity. Live your own life, and define your own values. Maybe you're not capable of society's definition of love. But you can be capable of your own version of love. That's the one that matters more. And the ones who truly love you will stick around.

Don't worry you're not selfish, it's okay to want to love and be loved in turn it's how we are wired! Don't beat yourself up. Love them when they're with you, and treasure them when they're gone, until you love another! Know the difference between the different types of love. Copied and pasted...Four unique forms of love are found in Scripture. They are communicated through four Greek words (Eros, Storge, Philia, and Agape) and are characterized by romantic love, family love, brotherly love, and God's divine love

Then you gotta take some time away from focusing on relationships and ask, "What do you really want out of life." I've been there man.

Maybe you’re not giving yourself enough credit

Love isn't about being happy, it's about finding joy in the happiness of others, and finding patient accepting compassion in their suffering. Happiness is simply the spirit triumphing against the odds where suffering is a choice. If you choose to suffer constantly, then it simply becomes the norm.

I’ve questioned the meaning of real love for a long time. I’m not certain I’m capable of it. I think of the pure deep and unconditional love between mother and child and I can’t imagine feeling that way about a woman. I’ve said I love you and it’s ended many times. I don’t know if I’ll ever find it.

[i][c=BF0080]It sounds like maybe you’re just a bit lost and confused. If you can, maybe take some time to yourself to think about things more clearly. [/c][/i]

Yeah, you're selfish. Probably borderline narcissist.

Maybe you are taking them for granted

Start with a pot plant.
If you can keep it healthy and thriving, you're on your way towards learning about real love.

I don't understand this sentence, I'm afraid
[quote]I want you because its what i want type selfish.[/quote]

Are you a sociopath