Do you believe some choose to not change , because being miserable is such a good story?

I don’t think some know how to embrace being happy…they don’t trust it to the point it brings up emotions that they have no experience dealing with. Because of that they retreat to a place of comfort, which unfortunately can be the place of despair that’s been a home for them.

maybe for some but for others it is because they don't see a way out. OR their emotions are clouding their judgment and common sense. That happened to me.

Yes I do..rewards for wallowing in their problems is a big incentive,sadly

Yes, they may like the attention they get from having a victim mentality. It's a familiar place and they can get stuck or wallow in it.

I have some relatives who think that martyrdom is the preferred way of life.

I had a friend who was like that, she loved the attention she got because of it. She'd even fake being very I'll just to get into ER so she could take pictures and post them to her attention givers.

There may be some but nor many wish to stay in that place

Yep… without a doubt

My wife's younger sister is like that. My wife and I cringe when we see that she is calling.

Yes. Some people choose to stay the same.

Yes I do. The same as some sick people don't want to get better. Their illness defines who they are. If they got better they would no longer get any attention.