@Mamapolo2016 I know! My 6 year old has had almost no relationship with him for years because he had no interest in her as a toddler (he “doesn’t understand little girls”). She was excited for a fun week with him 😔 He dropped her off at 10:30pm in a pyjama top she outgrew 3 years ago that was soaking wet with her tears and snot. I asked if she had slept at all and he just said “don’t know” 😑😑

@resealableheart I will never understand it. Never.

@resealableheart Ya he sounds like a immature person but you picked him. You have to try and make it work for your kids sake. I would try and have visits where you’re both there..

@Quetzalcoatlus He was great for the first few years and was even a great step dad to my older kids. He changed when I was pregnant with our third.

He won’t do that. I’ve tried it all. He used to consent to meeting up with me and the kids, but he would ALWAYS bring his mum along and he would do nothing.

@resealableheart Ya that sucks but you have to keep trying. My sister did the same and gave up. The dude ended up moving out of state and those kids went through a lot of rough years and are still suffering from the lack of their dad. Fathers are very important, especially during the teen years…

...doesn't relate to my question....

@originnone He was meant to have them a week and they were all home in less than 2 days. As soon as they are “too difficult” he brought them home.

@resealableheart Oh geez! That's one for the record books. I hope he's at least learned how difficult it is.

@Missadventurous I would die for my children yes. I hope I would never have to make that decision.

@ImpeccablyImperfect It is so tough as a mother. Especially as my dad was fantastic. I wish for that for all kids.

@resealableheart @ImpeccablyImperfect I have a cousin he went to see his dad when he was 17 for a week. They didn't see each other again for 20 year's. His dad had major surgery just recently and he decided to go see his dad. His mom took him because it was a 10 hour drive. He told me he all most didn't recognize his own dad.

@LordShadowfire He no longer fights me on custody because he knows he would either have to fight for it (and then have to have our daughter which he doesn’t want) or let me have full custody (which he doesn’t want because he wants to see our boys).

Right now the arrangement is informal and it’s easier that way. My boys are usually ok spending a weekend with him a month. Having them any longer is unheard of and won’t be happening again.

If he ever tried to force having them more I would go for sole custody (and I’d win).