Be careful of how you apologizing when wrong, particuarly when girls who are not slim are...

Dv8rs · 18-21, F

Why is it that the one who speaks the truth must apologize, but the fake-ass liars are set up on a pedestal? They tell the girl that she's not that fat, and she looks good, it's a lie, but they get all the back pats. She needs to hear the truth, and it might save her life, but nooo. The truth teller must apologize. I just don't get it.

smiler2012 · 56-60

{@esculationofepiphanieancosmic] 😆 sometimes it is best to say nothing at all as your remarks probably never meant to be hurtful was rather lets say badly expressed and came over slightly insensitive

helsbels · 31-35, F

I don't know if it was helpful, or your place to be so blunt. Also, are they 'silently judging', or 'gossiping'? I have changed a bit over the years at work and don't doubt people notice or have thoughts about it or have even spoken about it so I know a bit how she feels. But I do my job well and have never had a problem with anybody so that's their own business. Your second comment even if trying to be nice wasn't very clever or right to say. I would just not cover the subject with her at all, apologise if that's what SHE wants, but otherwise move on or you can expect to be talking to HR very soon!

Axelerator · 31-35, M

Well you weren't trying to help her. Being blunt and honest is fine and all, but it doesn't make anything better for her to now worry about all her colleagues and feel worse about it.
And "one of the ones it prolly suits to be fat" I don't think you believe that yourself tbh.
Not even sure why everyone is gossiping about something like that, there must not be anything else going on.