Be careful of how you apologizing when wrong, particuarly when girls who are not slim are involved.

I work with or rather alongside a woman who is very unhappy because she cannot stop eating and thus she is rotund.

All day long she is eating and i hear her stuffing her face and mucnching and chomping. One day last week she was depressed as usual and she said to me 'im scared that people are silently judging me'

I said "people arent silently judging you. Everyone in the office gossips about you"

She then got a bit more upset so i said "dont be sad. Youre one of the ones that probably suits being fat"

Now people are saying i should sayy sorry

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helsbels · 31-35, F

I don't know if it was helpful, or your place to be so blunt. Also, are they 'silently judging', or 'gossiping'? I have changed a bit over the years at work and don't doubt people notice or have thoughts about it or have even spoken about it so I know a bit how she feels. But I do my job well and have never had a problem with anybody so that's their own business. Your second comment even if trying to be nice wasn't very clever or right to say. I would just not cover the subject with her at all, apologise if that's what SHE wants, but otherwise move on or you can expect to be talking to HR very soon!