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Men is it difficult to remain faithful and content?

Someone I have been friends with and meet up with once every 6 months or so has just propositioned me.
He is engaged, just had a 3 month old, brought a house together 6 months ago...

From my understanding they were happy.

We only meet up to do art type things together and catch up.

Now he's flirting and propositioning me...

I'm not bragging. I'm really hurt and incredibly upset.

I thought he was one of the good ones.
4 years they've been together and never once have I tried to over step the mark.
He's advised me and listened to my relationship issues like a big brother!


I have told him off now we will had time amo
gdon39 · 46-50, M
No, it’s not hard to be faithful.
val70 · 51-55
I'm not going to claim that faithfulness is easy, and it's not even what some people think it is. What's love for instance? It's more than passion, sensuality, eroticism. It's about been able to care for someone with whom one wants to share those. Now back to faithfulness. You think that doing anything that would cause hurt to someone who one already "loves" is really love in the first place, or even that the person (still) knows what it really is? I'd advice anyone to set the person straight first of all. Tell him that love is precious because it's linked with caring for a person and not just any old sex position nor kinky domineering session and the like
4meAndyou · F
Good. SOME men are dogs. You can't treat them like friends and brothers because they don't think of YOU that way. What a shame. I feel so sorry for his fiance.
DrWatson · 70-79, M
Many men are faithful and regard fidelity as a core value.

But....not all men.

This must have been devastating.
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My husband started cheating when I was pregnant. I didn’t find out until years later.

Sounds like you have a very intimate relationship with him. That can provoke desires. My husband slept with a close friend of mine.

Sounds like he isn’t married. That used to make a difference.
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
No it was easy for me.
SoLeRiMix · 31-35, M
He's advised me and listened to my relationship issues like a big brother!
So, he found the opportunity here.
Well, be careful. Viper may strike in the most unexpected way.
NewMan2015 · 36-40, M
It’s not. I’ve had more issues with women being content in a relationship with me. I know I might be an exception to this though.
Zeusdelight · 61-69, M
He did the wrong thing.

I hope your friendship can continue once it is talked about.

If you choose to continue, he has a lot of work to do.
wonkywinky · 51-55, M
thats because he has someone already and wasnt afraid of your possible rejection
wonkywinky · 51-55, M
@wonkywinky Erm confession time..one time i had a g/f and i found i could chat up women easier because their possible rejections didnt worry me as i could get it anyway..its like that.i never "cheated"as such but i did try to kiss and cuddle a few etc.
AnneHoney · 41-45, F
Did you tell her?
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@AnneHoney no I haven't done anything at all
AnneHoney · 41-45, F
@Mellowgirl would you sleep with him if he wasn’t engaged?
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
Jeephikelove · 51-55, F
That is sad, just when you think you can trust someone. Sorry this happened to you. 😕
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@Jeephikelove I'm incredibly upset. I don't have friends and this is truly upsetting.
exexec · 61-69, C
Not hard at all. I have done it through almost 8 years of dating and all of our married life.
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
That is sad, but, were the art things anything suggestive,?
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
@Mellowgirl you wrote: "We only meet up to do art type things together and catch up." perhaps whatever the art was, turned him on and he then tried to proposition you. I am not blaming you in any way, just thought there might be some relationship.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@samueltyler2 no the art type of things are never sexual I am mindful of the fact he's in a relationship as am I even if it's not the best one.
Being open honest and faithful are key to my core values.
Northwest · M
50% of men and women cheat.
@Northwest not remotely
Northwest · M
@SecondMarge2 OK dude.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
It isn't for me. He was likely just waiting to jump on you. I don't do that with my women friends.
Justenjoyit · 61-69, M
Anyway who made up this thing that you have to just have sex with one person for the rest of your life?
Jeephikelove · 51-55, F
@Justenjoyit we’re animals, you’re not wrong. Not everyone feels the need to fornicate with multiple people. 🤷🏻‍♀️
“Self harm”????? Wtf!?
Justenjoyit · 61-69, M
@Jeephikelove You would be surprised the amount of people who in the right place
at the right time would
Jeephikelove · 51-55, F
@Justenjoyit oh I know
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