Surviving Loss, Trying To Remain Openhearted

Hey lovely lady. I lost my husband two years ago. I didn't cope well for the first year actually I totally fell apart and that's looked like everything from eating and drinking myself into oblivion to sitting in the bottom of his wardrobe and crying for an hour after sniffing his clothes. Just take each day as it comes, try and get out and do something, even if only a walk round the block. Some days are terrible, the nights alone are worse. I've found this place a massive help in distraction from destructive habits and in just getting my feelings out. I write how I'm feeling, even if nobody reads or responds it's helpful to me. There's no need to struggle alone. You can be open and genuine about how you're feeling here. Love to you and welcome to SW xx

Loss comes in many forms and arrives in waves and cycles. We mourn what was once there, what is no longer there, and the dreams of what things could have been.

Each person has their own way of processing and later managing that grief and feeling of loneliness. There is no specific timeline for when you'll be okay. Let yourself heal by acknowledging the heartache, while also believing that one day the tears won't flow as often.

Write your feelings if it helps you process them that way.It's ok if nobody sees or reads them. You write for yourself. Reading your own writing can help with coming to terms with the pain you are feeling.

May you find the strength and light again.

Sorry for you loss and hope you heal soon.

Welcome and enjoy the site.

I’m so sorry for your loss. Grief can feel like being knocked off your feet, and there’s no right way or timeline for finding your balance again. I lost my father last year. Be gentle with yourself, keep putting one foot in front of the other, and don’t give up on finding moments of peace and connection again. You can get through this.

Without knowing your situation I can tell you how my coping went after the death of my wife.
Try to stay busy and you may need to find new friends, interests and places to go. Going from we to me is a transition. Also don’t let anyone tell you how to grieve; we’re all different and need to go at our own pace.
It’s a beginning of a new journey so choose your path wisely. No quick decisions or relationships.
Hugs, and hope you have good support.

Welcome. Everyone handles grief in their own way.. for me, time does make it “easier” but.. there’s not a day I don’t think about someone I’ve lost. I’ve learned to cope silently, remember them and try to honour their memory. It’s not always easy, but we have to live on.

One day at a time. And don't do anything extreme.

Voice of experience on the last.

I've lost far more than I care to. Family (4) friends (many) and lovers (a few). Not to mention all the neighbors.

Some times helps to write about them as memorials. Just the women:

https://similarworlds.com/4729175-I-Want-To-Memorialize-People-I-Have-Lost/3493082-More-a-memorial-to-all-the-girls-that-have-effect

There is no easy answer...grieve and feel the sadness but know that this too will pass... Don't cut yourself off from life....

I’m sorry you’re going through such a difficult loss. Losing someone can leave feeling completely lost, and there’s no fixed way to cope with it. I hope you find some genuine and kind people here and make some good friends along the way.

You described it well. I will tell you that there really is no fix or cure. In time, you can handle the waves of grief better. Be patient with yourself and others. No one else knows exactly what you are feeling. If you feel safe, share; if not, pull away.

I feel that memory and grief are like a lake I walk along. Many times I go about my day for a small thing that stirs a storm, washing me in emotions. I won't lie; sometimes the pain is intense.

Reach out when you feel you are drowning.

I lost both of my parents and each time it felt like a pillar was knocked away from underneath my mental structure. I imagine it's the same for losing close friends or loved ones.

You cope the way you want to (within reason). Talking through it is a good tactic as well. This place makes it easy to pour your feelings out.