Did your newborn sleep with you or in a crib?
When did you finally get them into a crib?
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2brandon2 · 18-21, M
My dad works in a pediatric emergency department. There have been several cases of mothers rolling over their babies in suffocating them just this year alone he had four. It is so dangerous. In fact that parents are not allowed to sleep with their babies on a bed in the hospital because the hospital does not want the liability. The most nurturing thing that you can do for your baby is to swaddle them nicely tightly and comfortably in their crib And then bring them to your bare skin several times a night if you’re breast-feeding. It’s about the baby safety.
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ElwoodBlues · M
@2brandon2 Twenty odd years ago when my wife & I were having our kids, we looked into the stats on rollover deaths vs SIDS (crib death) and the rates were roughly comparable. There are cultures (e.g. much of India) where babies usually sleep in the parents' bed and cultures where they don't. Our conclusion was that rollover deaths are much more common where drinking or drugs are involved.
@Notsimilarreally Our first child, from birth, really wouldn't fall asleep without a human mattress. So he was in the bed between us. I still remember the lovely feeling of him kicking or poking me in the night.
After a few months when he was stronger and less satisfied with the "human mattress" we tried to move him to a crib, and we read up on "Ferberizing." We made up our own modified Ferber process where we let him cry himself to sleep in the crib for the first sleep of the night, but when he woke up for feeding he would stay in the bed with us. This eventually transitioned to full nights in the crib.
Then there was that afternoon nap that ended with him climbing out of the crib and dropping 4 feet to some padding we had on the floor. He chose a "big boy bed" but then preferred to sleep under it. Or making a nest next to it or a nest elsewhere in the room. Or in a kiddie Winnie-the-Pooh tent. Oh, those were the days!
@Notsimilarreally Our first child, from birth, really wouldn't fall asleep without a human mattress. So he was in the bed between us. I still remember the lovely feeling of him kicking or poking me in the night.
After a few months when he was stronger and less satisfied with the "human mattress" we tried to move him to a crib, and we read up on "Ferberizing." We made up our own modified Ferber process where we let him cry himself to sleep in the crib for the first sleep of the night, but when he woke up for feeding he would stay in the bed with us. This eventually transitioned to full nights in the crib.
Then there was that afternoon nap that ended with him climbing out of the crib and dropping 4 feet to some padding we had on the floor. He chose a "big boy bed" but then preferred to sleep under it. Or making a nest next to it or a nest elsewhere in the room. Or in a kiddie Winnie-the-Pooh tent. Oh, those were the days!
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@ElwoodBlues that is sweet 😊
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@robb65 awww. So you felt very secure in that she wouldn't suffocate under the quilts, how?
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
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@Notsimilarreally my wife would normally hold and feed her until she fell asleep. Before putting her in the basinet. She also had to be swaddled otherwise she'd wake herself up wit the random hand movements.
Thank you. Congrats to you too.
Thank you. Congrats to you too.
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@SW-User I haven't tried swaddling. Babies like to be able to move around and use their bodies. All of mine like to put their arms upwards, which is very cute. I read it is because they get startled due to a falling sensation so they put their arms up as a reflex, and then they stay there. Sometimes it's because it is comfortable.
ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
FreeSpirit1 · F
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
butterflybaby75 · 46-50, F
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It is dangerous to have a baby sleep with you in bed. They can be on a bed with you only if you are alert and not going to fall asleep. If they need comfort, you should hold them to your chest while they fall asleep and then put them into their bassinet or crib.
My babies all had bassinets at the start, and then cribs. I have very young children, one of whom was born last year and one this year.
My babies all had bassinets at the start, and then cribs. I have very young children, one of whom was born last year and one this year.
WintaTheAngle · 41-45, M
Muthafukajones · 46-50, M
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@Muthafukajones not gonna happen. I sleep light with him next to me, I'm aware.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Muthafukajones @Notsimilarreally That actually happened to a mom I just saw recently. It was on an episode of Intervention. She fell asleep in her bed and accidentally rolled a bit onto the baby and he died. She was trauma stricken..devastated and became a full blown alcoholic for years with severe depression. She wouldn't bathe for weeks and was just not even living. She got treatment and she was doing great after weeks at the treatment facility and therapy. It was very sad..but never her fault.
Stuffy · 61-69, F
The danger is real. Our baby in bassinet our crib
bijouxbroussard · F
YoMomma ·
They say not to sleep with them because you could roll over and suffocate them to death