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Do you think a therapist job is to...

Say "uncomfortable" things?
Mine shared this is her view .


I don't believe that's the main goal or objective of a therapist. I think they should validate your experience or feelings, and be objective...if they are not supposed to "tell you what to do", which I believe they use that as a way to be completely cut off from offering real guidance, then why would telling a person negative, uncomfortable things, be more important, than giving helpful tips? Most people are there not from having positive helpful people or experiences...they are there often due to horrible experiences already😢
Coralmist
41-45, F
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MarbleMarvel
A therapist job is to be keen enough to assess your needs and help you how you need, not only do it their way.

This is why I gave up on therapy. I got so tired of people telling me what I should do like it's so easy. We are individuals, not textbook definitions and solutions. It's unbelievable how many people get into human services yet have baseline empathy.

For me, life improved when I stopped looking for answers outside of myself. I made my inner work my job. Without the turmoil of a "professional" trying to fit me into a hole I don't fit, I made big improvements.
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exchrist · 31-35
I think both perspectives are correct. My therapist is someone i voice my experiences to in order to gain perspective. Its important that the therapist's feedback be critical so i can gain as much insight into something and be able to consider\tolerate other\ as close to all possible perspectives on anissue or event.
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Iwillwait · M
I do believe there are a certain amount of Therapists that play the Long Game and eek you through to a break-through, it's true they're not going to instruct you on what is next, but should be equipping you with the tools & skills to stand on your own with the newly learned tools and skills you are developing.
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SpiritSkye
For the most part I feel like I have to tell mine what to do . The help I need doesn't seem to exist outside of myself . As much work as we can do on ourselves ....sometimes I need something other than me. I'm kind of tired .
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Coralmist · 41-45, F
@SpiritSkye same. Was telling another member they should be offering therapy, tools, or tips that help anxiety or trauma. But they rarely do anything. If I could do it all on my own I would not be there. 😧
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SpiritSkye
@Coralmist I feel you. 🩷
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Justafantasy · M
Out of the 2 therapists I've had one was a positive experience and one was a waste of time.
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Miram · 31-35, F
No. It is not their job. They are failing at the very basics of their training; active listening, create a safe environment, not encouraging dependency...etc
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LunadelobosIAMTHEDRAGON · F
Unfortunately, some professionals don't do justice to their career and
hurt (vulnerable) people.

So, your shrink sounds like a dingbat and quasi quack.
Please leave.
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pdockal · 56-60, M
Validate ?
They are suppose to guide you to the solutions to getting better any way that works
But your suppose to figure it out NOT them
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Coralmist · 41-45, F
@pdockal Yes however one is paying them to help us figure it out. I'm not asking another to figure out everything, but I am there to get some form of therapy or help. They are there to help you get to the root of things.
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pdockal · 56-60, M
@Coralmist

I dont think you actually understand how therapy works
yes they are paid but they wont/cant solve your issues
they can ONLY guide you
untill you understand this youll never get the help you need
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Banksy83 · 41-45, M
How much do they charge you per session 🤔 Diva
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uncalled4 · 56-60, M
You're being far too general. What exactly was said?
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Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Miram Well one point you made, that they might get carried away by their desire for the patient to improve, was very apparent since my first few weeks with them. They kept asking over and over how long I've been in therapy, about my previous therapists, how many I'd been to, if it helped, this was several times. It just felt Too much.
I think they were fishing why I have not improved after several years of therapy and I felt low. 😟They kept saying, Did it help you? No therapist ever asked that nevermind over and over. And they said recently 'you just need to do it' about a fear I've had. It's like if I could have I would have. 😣 we need to figure out HOW I can do it, not just do it.
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Miram · 31-35, F
@Coralmist There are ways to explore your fears before you go barging into battles. You need that sense of safety and it is okay to need someone to be there for you, no matter how long it takes to get there.
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uncalled4 · 56-60, M
@Coralmist I understand why they are saying that, but I also understand you suffered narcissistic abuse from an impressionable age which hobbled your self-esteem and confidence. There's work to be done there. That wasn't your fault. But you can heal from it. I wish I were qualified to do so. All I can do is be your coach over here on the sidelines.
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