Non exclusive relationship ?

@in10RjFox oh yes thank you.

I totally understand what you mean .

Where relationships are concerned the future for me feels as though it's considerably more about free will.

& less about meeting the expectations of others. Which after hmm 50 yrs can feel slightly strange.

It wasn't that I was ever someone who wore two faces. Its just that , looking back on my past relationship experiences.

I can easily see my choices had pleased me of course.
But equally as much, were acceptable to my family and friends.
Not forgetting peer group & socialtal constraints.

These days wether by luck or design I am seeing that my choices, in how relate are 100% just about me .

While I don't feel as though I am doing anything wrong. It feels very different I must admit that .But also very very authentic.



I believe tha when you get to my time of life where you have seen and understand, that nothing is necessarily promised . Living authentically, feels like a tonic 🙂

@Kae20 This what I wanted to know from you... For past is past, but future need not be the same as there is enough scope to lead the life different and be more adventurous than past. Think different without constraining oneself with the given shackles of life or mindset.

@Kae20] [quote] I believe tha when you get to my time of life where you have seen and understand, that nothing is necessarily promised . Living authentically, feels like a tonic [/quote]

You don't have to believe for I am living in parallel in your time of life..the only difference being our gender perspective.. ☺️

@YoungPoet345 thanks for you input and yes I don't disagree with you at all .

Especially when it comes to the subject of monogamy I believe it's ideal grade of excellence that a couple should strive for and be proud of having achieved.

Having acknowledged this at your age , the laws of nature dictate that you indeed must view relationships this as standard. Reason being sometime soon.

You may typically be looking toward creating and raising a family of own .
Nothing in the laws of nature would suggest that choosing anything less than the ideal mate, alongside monogamy.

Would be an acceptable standard. Nor should this be the case as consistent love and safety are the basic need for any family unit to strive.

However my point in making this post. Is that there can arrive a time in a person's life , some one who perhap is much more mature finds herself loving a man solely f who is he is , and how his presence in this world enhances her life .

Yes monogamy is still her ideal standard.

Yet because loving him is not factoring in other conditions, which if she were younger would have had to have been conditional . Because raising a family dictates it.

His status , finances etc ( please infill here)

There comes a point where an older woman can be in love with a man solely for who he is and what his presence means to her.

And long as he his feelings are genuine & loving to her . Life indeed can continue. While nothing else outside of how feel as a couple matters at all 💕

@Kae20 makes sense

@Kae20 That’s the only circumstances under which I’d marry again.

@bijouxbroussard for a different perspective read this rather long section on history of mankind.

It does have controversial sources and is totally about a different belief system. Yet has some well thought out points about ancient man kind.

Warning a extremely long piece!

http://www.kamakala.com/vamacara.htm

@bijouxbroussard hmmm it's the emotional benchmark isn't it. I dunno maybe there's something wrong with me .🤷

@Carissimi thank you ..to be honest on his side ..there are issues surrounding emotions & mental health . & Because there is .. I'm okay with things being as they are .

@bijouxbroussard No its not typical . Which is why I questioned.

Thanks for your response.