Does anyone understand the psychology / mentality, behind a woman who can & currently does .. without issue love a man deeply .
Obviously wants him to remain in her life ..for as long as is naturally permitted .
Yet not be bothered about marriage, labels or even exclusivity with the guy.
She has romantic feelings for him.. is very attracted, loving , caring , tactile toward him. Enjoys words of affirmation. As most women in a relationship would .
But at the same hand finds she doesn't need to reassured all of the time .
Her contentment comes in knowing that he exists in this world.
In her everyday life she is self-confident, with a open minded disposition .
She doesn't live with him & would enjoy more of his company, but feels this may naturally evolve over time.
If the situation doesn't evolve she feels okay with waiting for the universe to decide.
Her attitude is fate is the decider.
My question - is this the ultimate example of my unconditional love for him
Or is there something missing ?
Can anyone else female or male relate?
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[quote]Yet not be bothered about marriage, labels or even exclusivity with the guy.. [/quote]
Benefits of a relationship without the responsibility? No thanks.
@Kae20 [quote]Maybe after 3 marriages & everything marriage entails. Its quite possible ( subconsciously) that I dont wish for the responsibilities.[/quote]
Just analyse how even at this age you are wondering how to go about the remaining part of life but unable to commit to anything in particular.
Where relationships are concerned the future for me feels as though it's considerably more about free will.
& less about meeting the expectations of others. Which after hmm 50 yrs can feel slightly strange.
It wasn't that I was ever someone who wore two faces. Its just that , looking back on my past relationship experiences.
I can easily see my choices had pleased me of course. But equally as much, were acceptable to my family and friends. Not forgetting peer group & socialtal constraints.
These days wether by luck or design I am seeing that my choices, in how relate are 100% just about me .
While I don't feel as though I am doing anything wrong. It feels very different I must admit that .But also very very authentic.
I believe tha when you get to my time of life where you have seen and understand, that nothing is necessarily promised . Living authentically, feels like a tonic 🙂
@Kae20 This what I wanted to know from you... For past is past, but future need not be the same as there is enough scope to lead the life different and be more adventurous than past. Think different without constraining oneself with the given shackles of life or mindset.
@Kae20] [quote] I believe tha when you get to my time of life where you have seen and understand, that nothing is necessarily promised . Living authentically, feels like a tonic [/quote]
You don't have to believe for I am living in parallel in your time of life..the only difference being our gender perspective.. ☺️