Non exclusive relationship ?

Poll - Total Votes: 10

Women have you deeply loved some one and felt comfortable without labels ?

Men would you be able to relate to a woman who loves without labels?

You can only vote on one answer.

Does anyone understand the psychology / mentality, behind a woman who can & currently does .. without issue love a man deeply .

Obviously wants him to remain in her life ..for as long as is naturally permitted .

Yet not be bothered about marriage, labels or even exclusivity with the guy.

She has romantic feelings for him.. is very attracted, loving , caring , tactile toward him.
Enjoys words of affirmation. As most women in a relationship would .

But at the same hand finds she doesn't need to reassured all of the time .

Her contentment comes in knowing that he exists in this world.

In her everyday life she is self-confident, with a
open minded disposition .

She doesn't live with him & would enjoy more of his company, but feels this may naturally evolve over time.

If the situation doesn't evolve she feels okay with waiting for the universe to decide.

Her attitude is fate is the decider.

My question - is this the ultimate example of my unconditional love for him

Or is there something missing ?

Can anyone else female or male relate?

This page is a permanent link to the reply below and its nested replies. See all post replies »

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

What is funny, is that few really don't want to understand exactly what happened before marriage was even thought about.

Marriage revolves around religion like a snake eating it's tail in the infinity symbol. ∞

bijouxbroussard · F

@DeWayfarer There are cultures where marriage was a means of consolidating tribes and clans. Religion had little to do with it.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@bijouxbroussard name one tribe that didn't have a belief system of some sort.

FYI not even the nudist polyamory Zo'e tribe of Brazil doesn't have such beliefs now.

bijouxbroussard · F

@DeWayfarer I’m not saying they didn’t have beliefs and deities, I know better than that. I’m saying that wasn’t why people married. It was to consolidate communities.

Kae20 · 61-69, FVIP

@DeWayfarer I get it .. that some of the time marriage is tied to religion & even societal expectation.
Not forgetting the important aspect of personal feelings of security within the relationship. Which is of justifiable importance when it comes to planning a family together.

And the thing is if anything I'm pro- marriage.
Ive experienced it and been happy.

Its just on this occasion, I dont feel as though I cant breathe or function with it right now.

Ultimately I would happily marry again if it was what we both wanted. But right now I'm neutrally balanced toward the idea of labels.

Also I believe as we go up in years. Commitment & marriage means different things to what they did when I was 25 - 30's even.

For instance Ive no need to percure a husband have babies with, take on a mortgage and have grown much more secure in older age.
Hmmm

Kae20 · 61-69, FVIP

@bijouxbroussard yes this is true ..but what about the emotional currency in marriage.

Does this not matter in todays time?

bijouxbroussard · F

@Kae20 That’s the only circumstances under which I’d marry again.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@bijouxbroussard for a different perspective read this rather long section on history of mankind.

It does have controversial sources and is totally about a different belief system. Yet has some well thought out points about ancient man kind.

Warning a extremely long piece!

http://www.kamakala.com/vamacara.htm

Kae20 · 61-69, FVIP

@bijouxbroussard hmmm it's the emotional benchmark isn't it. I dunno maybe there's something wrong with me .🤷