The thought of my husband being alone breaks my heart

I can honestly say he doesn’t need you to find a replacement. Besides being heartbroken he’ll be very vulnerable and that’s where the danger lies. Just make sure he has a support system and grief counseling and he’ll find his way.

I understand your cocern. It says alot to your character and your deep love for him. But, he is going to need time to heal. It may take years before he is ready to even think of moving on. Losing a spouse is hard emotionally. The desire to move forward has to come naturally. Rushing it can be detrimental to both parties.

People do amazing things after great loss, it's part of healing. Especially when we lose the people we choose and love so much.

No one can or will replace you. There will always be space for you and all that you shared. Whether he finds someone else or not, you are not replaceable 🖤

Time will change all things.

And the needs of the living are always there.

I bet all he needs to do is go somewhere with Iris where single ladies are.

Lady: "Is that your daughter? What a delightful child!"

Daddy: "Yes, I adore her."

Lady: "Hi, my name is Rabecca. Would you like to go get coffee some time?"

Daddy: "Better yet," (looks at Iris) "Who wants ice cream?"

Iris: "Yay, daddy, I wan eye squeem!"

"Eye squeem, eye squeem, we all get eye squeem."

"I wan chauckitt".

SF...YOU are not in charge of finding his next love...that will be a MUTUAL thing between HIM AND the next person who touches his heart. I KNOW you WANT to be part of it...but you can't FORCE him to have those feelings.

He has those feelings for YOU.

And when you are gone, he will be destroyed, emotionally. It will take years for him to recover from your loss.

Make a video. USE the video to tell him what sort of person you hope he will find, and then allow HIM to make his own choice...WHEN he is ready. WHEN he is healed inside.

It's probably not appropriate for me to say this but I'm guessing he'll probably change his mind on that eventually. He's young and he seems like a wonderful guy. Life will suck without you but I don't think you have to worry about him being alone forever. Love you lots. ❤

Do you have a tight family and support system? Does he have people he can lean on?

If he does, it might help a lot and give him proper time to grieve... 💙 And with how he loves you, he will need that time 💙

You're a good wife, Swampy. The best, I think he'd say

You have a heart of gold. You are such a treasure in this lifetime.

Reverse the positions, You're out of your mind with grief,honestly not wanting to marry and there in the wings,imposing is the "replacement"

How do you replace the irreplaceable?? not with this stand in...just my thoughst

I’m sorry you’re going through all this Swamp. 🫂

No one can replace you.

hope he can cook!!

He’ll want to be alone until he doesn’t

He will need time, possibly a lot of time