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I feel insecure.

Hi everyone.
I was in a relationship for 2 years, and almost 11 months ago, he left me without saying anything. After that, I had so many problems. I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, and I was desperate. Until recently, another guy with the same name as my ex asked me out. Well, I accepted but he left me too! I am not ugly, I have a job, I live in a good neighborhood, I am a PhD candidate at a very prestigious university. Why is this keep happening to me? I feel devastated and lonely. It is literally killing me.
Find someone with a different name.
Sherryblue27 · 26-30, F
@littlepuppywantanewlife Actually I feel so bad that I gave up on finding anybody else!
@Sherryblue27 don't give up. Just start with friendship and take opinions like that.
Fairydust · F
Insecurity attracts the wrong types, heal and work on your self worth.
Sherryblue27 · 26-30, F
@Fairydust Thank you for your kind comment
in10RjFox · M
PhD in what discipline?

The simple reason could be your traditional outlook to life that it must be guys who must ask gals out. It's this mentality that makes guys the bosses or employers, who hire and fire gals.

So rather than being sentimental , change your outlook to life. Get to a commanding position and start dictating.

It's like learning to drive and having your own car ... if not you have to wait for someone who passes by where you are, but may not be willing to have you in their car all the time, but only to drop you somewhere along the way to their destination.

Become the strong headed to call the shots. You can also make guys feel insecure and put them in the same state as you are.
Sherryblue27 · 26-30, F
@in10RjFox Wow, you explained very well. First of all, thank you for replying. I actually tried what you said but somehow it didn’t work. I don’t know what’s the problem, every road I go, I get to a dead end. I’m just thinking maybe there is something repelling about me.
I study microbiology btw.
in10RjFox · M
@Sherryblue27 It's all your mindset. We have nobody in life that we can resort to when we fall. So we have to gather ourselves and move on, whenever we fall. There is no such thing as dead-end as we can take a detour anytime. I was too in the same situation as yours at your age. In fact worse, as I am a guy. You can imagine how it would be. No girls would approach me and my work too was backend office work. It was online that changed my outlook.

So just chop down as many rather than waiting for pursuing one. Wait state is what is detrimental, as we lose time and our age keeps going and our market value goes down.

Don't discuss relationship or marriage... just expand your circle, without relying on anyone in particular.
Sherryblue27 · 26-30, F
@in10RjFox Thank you so much for sharing and guidance. I really appreciate it. I do my best, I try at least
Please don't be devastated by your experiences, life is set of good and bad days, God must have something better and more sincere guy for you. Those who left you, may be not good enough for you in the longer run of life.
Sherryblue27 · 26-30, F
@darkknightt It’s just the guys, in my personal life I also had bad days all the time. I got hurt badly and my biggest desire was to bw loved by him and it didn’t happen. There is nothing else to grasp
Their ghosting you is their fault not yours. Stop dating. Focus on your life. Hobbies. Passions. Evolve. You have decades ahead of you. You will meet decent guys. Stop stressing.
Sherryblue27 · 26-30, F
@PoetryNEmotion This was really heart warming, thank you for your advice ❤
Fertilization · 36-40, F
You know your worth.

Why to worry??
Sherryblue27 · 26-30, F
@Fertilization I just feel empty ... I don't like myself anymore
Sherryblue27 · 26-30, F
@littlepuppywantanewlife Is's just I really loved my ex, and now I am looking at everyone in order to find him again. I don't know what to do or even I don't know how to feel.
Sherryblue27 · 26-30, F
@littlepuppywantanewlife Apparently I am not very good at reading people and finding out about their intentions
@Sherryblue27 it's true sometimes it's hard to find out what they really want
Sherryblue27 · 26-30, F
gregloa · 61-69, M
You can’t replace him with someone else. You’ve got to get over him. He didn’t want you so he’s certainly not worth it. Someone else will sense you trying to replace him and it’ll seem you love him more than them. So they will go away also. Let it go completely and love yourself first. Then when you’re ready find someone else. Don’t ever mention him though. Big turn off and they won’t feel sorry for you. Start all over. Leaving the past behind. They need to know you love them for who they are not who you used to love
Ferric67 · M
I'm sorry to hear about your troubles sherry
Sherryblue27 · 26-30, F
@Ferric67 thanks for paying attention
Alyosha · 31-35, M
You've been with the wrong types. I don't know what it is you're looking for in a partner, but you've made a couple bad choices. That shouldn't spell the end for you. You just might want to take a look at what you're picking for and what those things really signal. Either that or it's pure bad luck, but either way, you shouldn't let it stop you from finding happiness.
JSmith75 · 46-50, M
Sounds like it is a them problem
Sherryblue27 · 26-30, F
@JSmith75 Or maybe me?! I really don't know
eMortal · M
Your mind is playing tricks on you. You need to go to love rehab.
Sherryblue27 · 26-30, F
@eMortal I did it, more than a month! But it doesn’t go away. Just hurting me once in a while especially when I think I’ve moved on
eMortal · M
@Sherryblue27 That's normal. Just keep doing it.
As for the recent break up, don't worry about it. He was probably insecure. About yourself though, one thing I've seen is that as a man I don't care about the type of car a woman drives, whether she bought a house or has a PhD. I care a woman's attitude towards me, her physically attributes, sex. The emotional connection comes later. 😉
Sherryblue27 · 26-30, F
@eMortal you’re right. I keep trying. Thanks for your advice
being · 36-40, F
There's lesson here to be learnt... I'm sorry you are going through that though..🤗😔
Sherryblue27 · 26-30, F
@being Thank you so much
Quimliqer · 70-79, M
Perhaps they’re intimidated by your success?
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KingofBones1 · 46-50, M
@Sherryblue27 honestly you probably need to quit dating the self entitled geeks and find you a roughneck. Because only roughneck men know how to keep it real these days
Sherryblue27 · 26-30, F
@KingofBones1 it is really sad, i’m sorry. I hope you find the right girl who appreciates you in a way you really deserve
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