It is very hard to work where the guy you just broke up with works. It is salt in the deep wound.

A married couple worked for me, and the husband decided to have a sex change operation. They divorced, and he seemed to show up everywhere she was at work. It was more than awkward. I helped her find a new job at the same salary, doing the same work in scientific research. A break-up like yours could be just as awkward.

I know I’m going to dump a lot of clichés here, but without any pain, there’s no gain. And we got to play the game to win. You don’t hit a home run every time you step up to the plate. Sometimes you don’t even hit the ball. Yes you sacrifice to play. We all do. We give things to try. Sometimes they don’t work. Sometimes it hurts bad. Sometimes it doesn’t hurt at all. It’s what makes us who we are and it’s part of the adventure of life. It takes time to shake it off, but in time you will be fine and you will move onto your next chapter. Never feel like the time was wasted. Things were learned. Things were experienced. And perhaps it’s positioned you for the next great thing. Keep smiling and marching forward. And find the silver linings and things. There’s always something.

You broke up for a reason; lesson learned - you do not need to linger on it (easier said than done, but it is step 1 thought to move on).
You must step ahead into your new life. Even if he is 1 inch from your face, he can't be allowed to have the same power over you.

Yes, the emotions were real and the pain is real.
But you don't have to settle for reliving the same story again.
If you find it too harming to work with him, talk to your boss about it.
He or she might be able to help in maybe assigning you some tasks away from each other OR going into another department OR even changing jobs - you do not need to suffer too much.

Then again, you have to be able to sustain yourself (survive), so if you have no better option, you will have to spend more time taking care of your emotions before and after work, in order to hold on as long as necessary until you find something better.

Physical exercise (hit the gym often) can help with that. Dance class, art class, cooking class (even good cooks can learn something new), any other thing you wanted to learn can help you ease the recovery by occupying your mind with something else.

Whatever you do, contrary to your inner despair, don't isolate yourself from others.

Pain is normal, it is human, it is like a storm... it is inevitable, though it is not meant to be eternal.
By natural order, the sun will break through again.

You are not alone 💗

One of the worst things anyone does imo is to date people where they work for just that reason. I wonder what the percentages are for those who, eventually quit their jobs and go elsewhere because of this type of situation.
Hopefully, your wound eventually heals over.

@oezlem 😢 sorry that is the case with your boyfriend and i agree it must be a difficult really for both of you in this situation . just try and be professional and treat him like anyone else and use your work as a sort of way of something to block the hurt and numb the pain a little

That’s why I never dated anyone from work. I valued my job and never wanted to quit if things turned bad on a personal level at work

I would imagine it would be difficult at first but may get easier.

Ouch it looks like destiny , I am sorry , I know it hurts .

I never date anybody I work with, for this reason.

That would be awkward.

That's why Human Resources usually frowns on employees dating other employees...makes for employee attrition and a tense workplace.

Put your resume out there. Don't try living with the pain.

I wouldn't be that bothered. Why should I be ashamed or care? We can be polite coworkers still.

That's why you shouldn't fish off the company pier!

It’s never wise to fish in the company pond.

This is why some employers won't accept employees who are in relationships even married and it seems crazy while you are getting along but as soon as anything goes wrong even an Atheist will thank god for this rule.

It's not hard. It's just the mindset. You think you gave up something that never comes back, but you never had it in the first place. Think again and ask yourself what did you have a lot, that you gave up ?

Him was just a reason for you to shed what had to come out of you.

So now become like him in the workplace and think the way he thinks.. think you were the one who fvckd him .. and tell him "sorry I used you" .. and make him feel used.

It’s why dating a co-worker is generally discouraged.
The saying is, "don’t sh*t where you eat" because post breakup can be a disaster personally and for the place of business. 🥺