It is very hard to work where the guy you just broke up with works. It is salt in the deep wound.
Have you found this after a long term relationship, where you gave up a lot for him?
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Busybee333 · 31-35, F
You broke up for a reason; lesson learned - you do not need to linger on it (easier said than done, but it is step 1 thought to move on).
You must step ahead into your new life. Even if he is 1 inch from your face, he can't be allowed to have the same power over you.
Yes, the emotions were real and the pain is real.
But you don't have to settle for reliving the same story again.
If you find it too harming to work with him, talk to your boss about it.
He or she might be able to help in maybe assigning you some tasks away from each other OR going into another department OR even changing jobs - you do not need to suffer too much.
Then again, you have to be able to sustain yourself (survive), so if you have no better option, you will have to spend more time taking care of your emotions before and after work, in order to hold on as long as necessary until you find something better.
Physical exercise (hit the gym often) can help with that. Dance class, art class, cooking class (even good cooks can learn something new), any other thing you wanted to learn can help you ease the recovery by occupying your mind with something else.
Whatever you do, contrary to your inner despair, don't isolate yourself from others.
Pain is normal, it is human, it is like a storm... it is inevitable, though it is not meant to be eternal.
By natural order, the sun will break through again.
You are not alone 💗
You must step ahead into your new life. Even if he is 1 inch from your face, he can't be allowed to have the same power over you.
Yes, the emotions were real and the pain is real.
But you don't have to settle for reliving the same story again.
If you find it too harming to work with him, talk to your boss about it.
He or she might be able to help in maybe assigning you some tasks away from each other OR going into another department OR even changing jobs - you do not need to suffer too much.
Then again, you have to be able to sustain yourself (survive), so if you have no better option, you will have to spend more time taking care of your emotions before and after work, in order to hold on as long as necessary until you find something better.
Physical exercise (hit the gym often) can help with that. Dance class, art class, cooking class (even good cooks can learn something new), any other thing you wanted to learn can help you ease the recovery by occupying your mind with something else.
Whatever you do, contrary to your inner despair, don't isolate yourself from others.
Pain is normal, it is human, it is like a storm... it is inevitable, though it is not meant to be eternal.
By natural order, the sun will break through again.
You are not alone 💗