Imma need the red flag guy for this one lol

Uh…
Are you good with those terms and conditions?
Seems pretty clear cut to me..

So you're old enough for him to come fuck but not old enough for him to be with? You're "in love" with a married man.

Tell Pinocchio not to waste his time or yours.

Yikes.. Seems like a long time to wait.

He’s cheating on his girlfriend, and you’re his dirty little secret

No. Ewws. 😑 You know better than this. Heart invested or not, don't be that girl.

His baby mama ????
So he has a child ?

🙄Yer all nutz

I’d get out and not waste your time with this clown. You’re worth too much to waste your time in someone who’s not into you as much as you’re into them.

Just avoid going to a Coldplay concert

He's got a sweet thing going.

He lies to his baby momma about having to go out of town. Then heads out to see you, on the weekends where he's not seeing someone else. When you're 30, he'll add another 26-year old to his rotation schedule.

Good luck.

Don't fall for guys who have baby mamas. Believe me, you will never have their full attention

Here you go! I'm not sure this is enough red flags for that story, but it's a start.

Yeah those are for sure red flags.

The age difference isnt changing, so no, thats a lie he's telling either you or himself.

The texting seems like a line, moreso it'd be a reason for him to not have proof/paper trail.

But if hes there and doesnt have messanger or is never on his phone then maybe he just doesnt.

But him living with her because she cant afford to move....its semantics, but she would be living with HIM.

And even then theres no reason she could'nt know about you.

You seem to be a secret.

Now maybe there were prior exs in your life who did damage/hurt certain parts of you....and this guy doesn't do that. That doesnt make him good or safe.

But you and your heart will make their own choices. It certainly seems sketchy though. But i am biased, past job makes me weary of this kinda story

You need to rip the bandaid off. It's gonna hurt, but the pain and suffering to come will be far more if you don't. Just my honest opinion.

The first three things are on you as much as him. Who cares if he doesn’t text and wants to talk on the phone or has social media and well he is too old for you. Then you said he lives with his baby mama and yes that might be a problem.

Does he really love you?

Your age difference won't change, either.

No "social media"? Nothing to do with his age. He's not ever so old and people twice his age use one or another social-medium even if they restrict it to communicating with friends and relatives.

Besides, he may prefer talking by telephone because that is far more personal than text-messages.

As for still living with his mother, that could well be because he cannot afford to move out. He might also be under her thumb, especially given that infantile "baby mama" phrase.

So he's one of those psychopaths that if he gets a text he's trying to call the person back in response. I've known a few. Run.

Yeah…. He’s playing you. Run, don’t walk away.

he's not leaving his baby's mom else he'd have to pay her child support. he's leading you on and her and probably a number of other girls on the side.. that's how they are.. but if you want to be played by him that's on you for indulging against common sense

The fact that you need the “red flag guy” to give advice already shows you know it’s a red flag situation — detach yourself and go live your best life.

Sounds like nothing but red flags. 🫤

I'm not sure anyone who's going to care will see any difference in the optics between 42/26 and 46/30. I'm not sure how much I believe he has 'no social media' @42. I know people in their 70s who are all over various social media things regularly. this all seems wildly suspicious. if you can't 'be together' till half a decade from now, how's he managing to come see you for a weekend? I'm pretty sure you already know what's going on, you just don't want to believe it and need some outside view that confirms it.

Don't meet him, ew

He's concealing a lot from you I think

Never texting = no record. The guy still lives with his wife/baby mama translates to you being his side piece. Don’t fall into his trap. You are worth someone’s complete attention.

At 42 he surely grew up with social media available so he has made a conscious choice to not get involved with it.

This is all kinda screwed up.

no, no, NO! he just doesn't want to text you because he doesn't want the evidence. if you ask him to text you and he says no...RUN! even if he hates it he will do it if you ask.

then this crap about you not seeing anyone but he is living with someone....? that is a load of crap. please end it.

if i had to do it all over again....i would never have smoked, never even tried Maryjane, never drank alcohol and never dated anyone...ever! i would have been so much happier....

I was kinda hoping that someone would tell me I'm being crazy, but😭😂

Enjoy the sex and don't expect anything more from him.