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Imma need the red flag guy for this one lol

A guy I've been on and off with since last summer is coming to see me this weekend 😍
But there's some red flags that I need to figure out while he's here.

First of all, he never texts, like ever! He only want to talk over the phone, and he has no social media🫣 He's older so maybe that's normal? I'm 26, he's 42. He told me that we can't be together 'cause I'm "too young" and he's still living with his baby mama 'cause she can't afford to move rn? He also said that we can be together when I turn 30 'cause it "looks better" with the age difference. I JUST turned 26 🤔 So we can act like a couple, just not officially be one🙃

I love him, so I wanna figure it out🫣💕
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lovingdead · 36-40, M
Yeah those are for sure red flags.

The age difference isnt changing, so no, thats a lie he's telling either you or himself.

The texting seems like a line, moreso it'd be a reason for him to not have proof/paper trail.

But if hes there and doesnt have messanger or is never on his phone then maybe he just doesnt.

But him living with her because she cant afford to move....its semantics, but she would be living with HIM.

And even then theres no reason she could'nt know about you.

You seem to be a secret.

Now maybe there were prior exs in your life who did damage/hurt certain parts of you....and this guy doesn't do that. That doesnt make him good or safe.

But you and your heart will make their own choices. It certainly seems sketchy though. But i am biased, past job makes me weary of this kinda story